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What is a Marriage PactTM?
A Marriage PactTM is the unique
groundrules you and your partner establish for your relationship. No two
Pacts are the same. It covers how you as a couple would like things to
go from the mundane to the very serious and is a moral document not a
legal one.
To make it meaningful, it is first necessary that each of you know what
you want individually from your marriage. What would make YOU happy?
Once you have your expectations in writing, the next step is to compare
them. Where you are in agreement, enter that in your Pact. Where you
differ, it is necessary to discuss the topic until you have a resolution
you can both live with. These should not be like New Year's resolutions
that go by the wayside as soon as they are inconvenient.
Think of these agreements as lifetime promises, extensions of your
wedding vows. Living by them as your life together unfolds will make all
the difference in the world in the satisfaction, joy and togetherness
you enjoy in your marriage.








"The Objective of Serious Dating
Is To Really Get to Know Each Other.
Unfortunately, That Seldom Happens!"
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It's been estimated
3 out of 4 marriages are in trouble
the day they start!
A major factor in this startling statistic is the
disillusionment that begins when the new bride and
groom each discover the person they married isn't
quite the person they dated.
Often they find the person they thought they knew so
very well is a virtual stranger!
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From:
Charlie Michaels, co-Author of “Mastering Marriage”
Dear Potential Bride or Groom,
Let's face it,
when we start dating someone new, we all do things
to make ourselves more desirable. We dress up. We
put on our best manners. We go places and do things
we haven't done before and, in some cases, hope we
never have to do again.
Mike pretended to like broccoli, mushrooms and
escargot when these could have been featured on his
own "Fear Factor" episode. My house was spotless and
totally organized when we started dating but that
definitely was not typical. There are times when my
projects are so spread out all over the floor that
its impossible to tell if we have carpet!
We're just trying to get the other person to like us
and we feel the "real" us might not be as
attractive, so we pretend to be what we feel would
be more appealing. These little deceptions are
harmless, even fun, when we are dating just to have
a good time. This is no longer true when we enter a
stage that might lead to the serious committment of
marriage. The real problem is that it could well be
some of the very things we do that are out of
character for us that makes our partner say "this is
the one for me":
She's perfect. She loves to
watch sports and action movies.
He's perfect. He actually likes
spending time with my family and doesn't mind
shopping.
This can be a hugh problem. In
this stage of our relationship, we are evaluating
each other to decide if this is the person with whom
we would like to share the rest of our life. How can
we do this if the person is not being himself or
herself? We can't and so for many the true
evaluation doesn't begin until after the wedding and
for many the "real" person is not at all what they
expected or wanted.
In our book, Mastering Marriage, we call
dropping the masks you wore while you dated,
"Trading Faces." If you are entering this phase of
your relationship, the time to start being yourself
is now. If you persist in these "deceptions" until
you are married then we believe you should be
prepared and willing to do them the rest of your
life. Either be yourself so your potential spouse
can fairly evaluate you or become that person your
spouse fell in love with. If you don't feel you can
do this or even if you just don't want to, then stop
the charade and be yourself and ask your partner to
do the same. Really get to know each other. It's
important.
Another problem is that each of us has developed our
own idea of the perfect marriage and how the perfect
husband and perfect wife should behave. The problem
is that our concept may have nothing to do with our
partner's ideal.
If you're thinking about giving the key to your
heart, take time to share the key to your happiness
as well! We'll show you how, step-by-step and it
will make all the difference in the world in how
smoothly your transition to husband and wife will
go. For some, the "adjustment period" is so
difficult, they never fully recover from it to
realize their full potential. Others don't survive
it, ending their marriage before it really began.
Join the fabulous exceptions that grow happier and
more in love each year. You and your future spouse
are happy and in love. You want to be together as
much as possible. Wouldn’t it be glorious to wake up
every morning for the rest of your lives and feel as
lucky to be with each other as you do right now?
Isn’t this what all couples dream of?
Sadly most marriages don’t live up to the dream.
Over half end in divorce and 4 out of 10 of the
couples that stay together are not happily married.
I cite these statistics not to scare you but to
prompt you to action. Those results are
heartbreaking but absolutely unnecessary.
Assuring success is easier before unexpected issues
and misunderstandings occur which happens to every
married couple. Some small, some large. Some sooner,
some later. Some silly, some serious. Most can be
avoided altogether by doing the right things before
you wed.
Couples spend a great deal of time preparing for
their wedding, reception, and honeymoon, but the
question that will determine whether your marriage
will be everything you hope for is:
How effectively have
you prepared for your
day-to-day married life after the honeymoon?
Just as you must
prepare before the wedding to make it run smoothly,
the very best time to assure your marriage will run
smoothly is before you are married.
The problem is
people think discussing their future means talking
about where they will live and work and a few other
obvious situations.
When you combine
all this, you can see why so many people are
disillusioned soon after they marry and why most
marriages don’t last or, in time, are not
satisfying.
Please don’t
leave the success of the most
important relationship in your life to chance.
Most couples
marry believing they will calmly and rationally
address each problem and issue as it arises; that
their love is strong enough to get them through
anything. Big mistake.
Understand that all the people
who divorce were happy and in love on their wedding
days also and felt that same way. They were sure
they would be joyful exceptions to the statistics.
Just as sad are
the couples that stay unhappily married
sharing an address not a life. A disheartening state
of affairs indeed. They too started out with this
same mistaken belief.
Most of the
disappointments we suffer in our lives are not
because the actual situation is so terrible but stem
from the disillusionment that sets in when the
reality differs from our
expectations. This is true in marriage also.
Almost all of us
have unrealistic impressions of marriage that
developed over our lifetimes based on movies, TV,
magazines and newspapers. In addition, not many
people have given any real thought to what they
personally expect and want from married life. They
just get married.
A major cause of
early differences that can grow into marriage-ending
problems is that people did not merge what they
each wanted from marriage into a shared dream and
define how they would achieve it.
This isn’t because they didn’t care, surely they
did, or because they were too busy.
The real reason is they simply didn’t know what to
do.
Their plan for their future
together was that they had no plan.
Be aware that
living together doesn't really prepare you
for marriage. The failure rate of those who lived
together before marrying is higher than for those
who don’t!
Even if you have
had pre-marriage counseling, it is unlikely you will
be aware of the day-to-day strategies we share.
My husband and I
wrote Mastering Marriage for every couple who wants
to grow happier and more in love each year. It
details every idea we have used for 25 years to have
a marriage that exceeds our wildest expectations and
our expectations were lofty!
Without Proper
Preparation, Most Marriages Will Fail.
Most Marriages Fail.
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There is no
better time to read about and implement our
suggestions than before your wedding. It is much
easier to get off on the right foot than to make
adjustments after some conflict arises or after you
have broken a rule you didn’t even know existed!
A little effort
now can avoid situations that develop into problems
that diminish or destroy marriages. This is better
than putting a lot of effort later into attempting
to smooth over a dispute after one of you is “right”
and the other “wrong”.
You can
be one of the happy exceptions and enjoy a strong,
fulfilling marriage instead of ending up in a blah,
unsatisfying marriage or divorce.
I know you’re
busy but with a minimum of effort today, your
marriage will be everything you hope for. There are
pitfalls you can avoid and things you can do before
you marry that will virtually assure your success.
A sampling of
secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering Marriage:
- Step-by-step how to prepare
your Emotional PrenuptialTM,
the most important document next to your
marriage license and the key to your future
happiness.
- The most effective
communication technique ever and the key to
making each other happy every day, in good times
and bad.
- What each of you are doing
daily that can cause disappointment almost
immediately after you marry and what you can do,
starting today, to prevent it.
- Strengthen your
commitment to each other every day with three
words more powerful than "I love you" and end
any disagreement....almost before it begins.
- Mom's "magic words" are
still magic in marriage.
- Your road to happiness
will be smoother once you see through the
“Mirage of Marriage” and avoid putting
unrealistic demands on each other.
- Bend the Golden Rule so
your spouse will always be happy to be married
to you.
- The most important
decisions you will make about sex and money,
resolving two of the biggest areas of conflict
in marriage.
- Why you shouldn’t treat
each other like Mr. Potato Head®.
- Discover that the harder
you work to be the perfect spouse the more you
can irritate your partner. Ouch!
- It's easy, fun and so
wonderful to be one of the fabulous exceptions
that grows more in love and happier to be
married every year.
Share with each other the best wedding gift ever.
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You will never
get a second chance to
start your marriage off right.
Mike and I are
ordinary people with an extraordinary gift to share
with you: the clues to growing happier and more in
love throughout your marriage.
Believe me, we
didn’t start out as likely candidates to be writing
a book on this topic. My dating history ran from
comical to sad to pathetic. At my high school
graduation dinner, my classmates named me “the
person most likely to have her love life made into a
soap opera.” And that was before things got bad!
Ultimately, I was
angry, hurt and both hated men and needed their
approval. I lacked positive role models and had no
apparent relationship skills. I am bossy, demanding,
strong willed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and
a perfectionist. I also have many positive traits,
I’m sure.
Mike went to an
all boys’ high school and admits to being backwards
and awkward with women. He has an explosive temper,
is bossy, argumentative, strong willed, work
obsessed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a
perfectionist. His need to excel at work caused him
to put in long hours at the office and destroyed his
first marriage even though he admits he had a good
wife.
Back then, we
were emotionally challenged. Mike’s
divorce devastated him and I, though never married,
had perfected the art of selecting unsuitable
partners.
Because we lucky
enough to listen to and implement advice given to us
before we were married by a couple that had been
happily married for 50 years at the time, we have
been happier than we thought possible and, based on
our personality traits, this is no small feat. They
were a minor challenge, however, compared to the
situations we have persevered through over the
years.
A failed business, near bankruptcy, living out of
our car for a year, a twelve year remodeling
project, my eight year bout with clinical depression
and giving my mother hospice care for the last six
months of her life are the short list.
Despite facing these and other obstacles that could
have destroyed a weaker marriage, we have never felt
the slightest threat to our relationship.
We will help
you make your marriage just as impervious to
whatever life throws at you and you will enjoy doing
it!
Everyone starts
out expecting a wonderful marriage but few know
exactly how to accomplish that elusive goal. I
believe that if you want to know how be happily
married listen to a couple that’s been happily
married for many years which is what we did.
Based on statistics, most of you
aren’t going to know many people that fit that
description. Even if you do, how many do you feel
comfortable asking details of how they handle sex,
money and other issues in their relationship? What
to do.
It’s Simple.
You want to be happily married.
We show couples how to be happily married.
Our suggestions
will make your life together better; the more of
them you incorporate into your daily life, the
happier you will be. If you follow them all you will
be happier than you can imagine.
Take heart, years
ago we didn't have a clue how to prepare for
marriage either.
We are committed to help others just as we were
helped many years ago by sharing advice literally
forced upon me by Mr. Ken Burley, a business
consultant to my company. He told me he could tell
that I had met the man I was going to marry and he
wanted to give me some advice.
I barely knew him but I listened because I wanted to
talk about my spouse after 50 years of marriage with
the love in Ken's voice. We are forever in his debt.
Based on all we’ve faced over the years, his simple
suggestion is the cornerstone that has made all the
difference between success and failure for us.
Once we
understood you could take charge of your
future, we built on that foundation and
developed the other strategies we share in our book.
We have lived
happier than we thought possible without
resentments, disputes or even serious arguments. I
say serious because, not wanting to burst any
bubbles, we still have disagreements and
occasionally “Mellow” Mike will lose his temper.
We have overcome numerous marriage threatening
challenges together without any threat to our
relationship. You can too by learning habits that
will keep you happily married and sustain a lifelong
love affair.
Begin building your future, today.
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I hope I have
convinced you that you can benefit from the
experience of others just as we did many years ago,
even if you don’t think you need it. Most people
feel they will be the happy exceptions. Millions
make that mistake every year. Whether it is our
advice or that of someone else who has a great
marriage, please don’t let your marriage just
"evolve." The odds are heavily against success.
Even if you’re
one of the fortunate few to be raised in a home
where your parents openly loved each other and had a
marriage to emulate, I'll bet that you have no idea
how they accomplished it. You saw the façade not the
foundation. Even if they are willing, they probably
will not be able to tell you exactly how they have
done it. More than likely they belong to that very
small and very lucky group that somehow survives the
“trial and error method of marriage.” Not a
good approach.
We have been
happily married for 25 years. Mike did it wrong and
now he’s done it right. Our success is not luck. It
is the direct result of the strategies we learned,
developed and implemented throughout our marriage
and share in our book.
We offer the
perspective of both wife and husband but we don’t
have you create our idea of a great marriage. We
help you realize the unique marriage dreams the two
of you envision and give you strategies that will
accomplish your goals not
ours.
A few hours to
learn simple techniques you can start applying
before the wedding and in those first few months of
marriage, will assure that you will thrive not just
survive, that each of you will get what you hope for
from your relationship, that you will be happily
married and that your love and respect for
each other will grow stronger no matter
what life throws at you.
You have
nothing to lose and a lifetime of happiness to gain.
Great Marriages
Don’t Just Happen. Make Yours One Of Them. |
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So……
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Marriage.
Implement the strategies every day.
Share your book with other couples
you care about.
Tell others about your success.
Come back and let us know about
your experience.
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for your marriage is a piece of cake!
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"You've Shared The
Key To Your Heart. Now, Share The Key To Your
Happiness!"It's been estimated 3 out of
4 marriages are in trouble the day they
start!
Great marriages don't just happen. Sadly, they
don't happen very often, period.
It's hard not to get so
caught up in the fairy tale atmosphere of the wedding that preparing
for the realities of day-to-day married life is
overlooked.
Unfortunately, this oversight leads to the
infamous "Adjustment Period" which, as a minimum, causes discomfort
and, when as severe as it often is, results in a disconnect many
marriages don't survive.
You've given each other the key to
your heart. Take time before your wedding to share the key to your
happiness! We'll show you how, step-by-step and it will make all the
difference in the world in how smoothly your transition to husband
and wife goes.
Join the fabulous exceptions that grow
happier and more in love each year.
From: Charlie Michaels,
co-Author of “Mastering Marriage”
Dear Bride
or Groom-To-Be,
You and your future spouse are happy
and in love. You want to be together as much as possible. Wouldn’t
it be glorious to wake up every morning for the rest of your lives
and feel as lucky to be with each other as you do right now?
Isn’t this what all couples dream
of?
Sadly most marriages don’t live up to
the dream. Over half end
in divorce and 4 out of
10 of the couples that stay together are not happily
married. I cite these statistics not to scare you but to prompt you
to action. Those results are heartbreaking but absolutely
unnecessary.
Assuring success is easier before
unexpected issues and misunderstandings occur which happens to every
married couple. Some small, some large. Some sooner, some later.
Some silly, some serious. Most can be avoided altogether by doing
the right things before your wedding.
Couples spend a great deal of time
preparing for their wedding, reception, and honeymoon, but the
question that will determine whether your marriage will be
everything you hope for is:
How effectively have
you prepared for your day-to-day married life after the
honeymoon?
Just as you must prepare before the
wedding to make it run smoothly, the very best time to assure your
marriage will run smoothly is before you are married.
The problem is people think
discussing their future means talking about where they will live and
work and a few other obvious situations.
When you combine all this, you can
see why so many people are disillusioned soon after they marry and
why most marriages don’t last or, in time, are not satisfying.
Please don’t leave the success of
the most important relationship in your life to
chance.
Most couples marry believing they
will calmly and rationally address each problem and issue as it
arises; that their love is strong enough to get them through
anything. Big mistake.
Understand that all the people who divorce were
happy and in love on their wedding days also and felt that same way.
They were sure they would be joyful exceptions to the statistics.
Just as sad are the couples that stay
unhappily married sharing an address not a life. A
disheartening state of affairs indeed. They too started out with
this same mistaken belief.
Most of the disappointments we suffer
in our lives are not because the actual situation is so terrible but
stem from the disillusionment that sets in when the reality
differs from our expectations. This is true in
marriage also.
Almost all of us have unrealistic
impressions of marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on
movies, TV, magazines and newspapers. In addition, not many people
have given any real thought to what they personally expect and want
from married life. They just get married.
A major cause of early differences
that can grow into marriage-ending problems is that people did not
merge what they each wanted from marriage into a shared dream and
define how they would achieve it.
This isn’t because they
didn’t care, surely they did, or because they were too busy.
The real reason is they
simply didn’t know what to do.
Their plan for their future together was that they
had no plan.
Be aware that living together doesn't
really prepare you for marriage. The failure rate of those
who lived together before marrying is higher than for those who
don’t!
Even if you have had pre-marriage
counseling, it is unlikely you will be aware of the day-to-day
strategies we share.
My husband and I wrote Mastering
Marriage for every couple who wants to grow happier and more in love
each year. It details every idea we have used for 25 years to have a
marriage that exceeds our wildest expectations and our expectations
were lofty!
Without Proper Preparation, Most
Marriages Will Fail. Most Marriages
Fail.
There is no better time to read about
and implement our suggestions than before your wedding. It is much
easier to get off on the right foot than to make adjustments after
some conflict arises or after you have broken a rule you didn’t even
know existed!
A little effort now can avoid
situations that develop into problems that diminish or destroy
marriages. This is better than putting a lot of effort later into
attempting to smooth over a dispute after one of you is “right” and
the other “wrong”.
You can be one of the happy
exceptions and enjoy a strong, fulfilling marriage instead of ending
up in a blah, unsatisfying marriage or divorce.
I know you’re busy but with a minimum
of effort today, your marriage will be everything you hope for.
There are pitfalls you can avoid and things you can do before you
marry that will virtually assure your success.
A sampling of
secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering
Marriage:
- Step-by-step how to prepare your Emotional
PrenuptialTM, the most important
document next to your marriage license and the key to your
future happiness.
- The most effective communication technique ever
and the key to making each other happy every day, in good times
and bad.
- What each of you are doing daily that can cause
disappointment almost immediately after you marry and what you can
do, starting today, to prevent it.
- Strengthen your commitment to each other
every day with three words more powerful than "I love you" and end
any disagreement....almost before it begins.
- Mom's "magic words" are still magic in
marriage.
- Your road to happiness will be smoother once
you see through the “Mirage of Marriage” and avoid putting
unrealistic demands on each other.
- Bend the Golden Rule so your spouse will always
be happy to be married to you.
- The most important decisions you will make
about sex and money, resolving two of the biggest areas of
conflict in marriage.
- Why you shouldn’t treat each other like Mr.
Potato Head®.
- Discover that the harder you work to be the
perfect spouse the more you can irritate your partner.
Ouch!
- It's easy, fun and so wonderful to be one of
the fabulous exceptions that grows more in love and happier to be
married every year.
Share with each other
the best wedding gift ever. The secrets to to a GREAT marriage.
You will never get a second chance
to start your marriage off right.
Mike and I are ordinary people with
an extraordinary gift to share with you: the clues to growing
happier and more in love throughout your marriage.
Believe me, we didn’t start out as
likely candidates to be writing a book on this topic. My dating
history ran from comical to sad to pathetic. At my high school
graduation dinner, my classmates named me “the person most likely to
have her love life made into a soap opera.” And that was before
things got bad!
Ultimately, I was angry, hurt and
both hated men and needed their approval. I lacked positive role
models and had no apparent relationship skills. I am bossy,
demanding, strong willed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a
perfectionist. I also have many positive traits, I’m sure.
Mike went to an all boys’ high school
and admits to being backwards and awkward with women. He has an
explosive temper, is bossy, argumentative, strong willed, work
obsessed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist. His
need to excel at work caused him to put in long hours at the office
and destroyed his first marriage even though he admits he had a good
wife.
Back then, we were
emotionally challenged. Mike’s divorce devastated
him and I, though never married, had perfected the art of selecting
unsuitable partners.
Because we lucky enough to listen to
and implement advice given to us before we were married by a couple
that had been happily married for 50 years at the time, we have been
happier than we thought possible and, based on our personality
traits, this is no small feat. They were a minor challenge, however,
compared to the situations we have persevered through over the
years.
A failed business, near bankruptcy, living out of our
car for a year, a twelve year remodeling project, my eight year bout
with clinical depression and giving my mother hospice care for the
last six months of her life are the short list.
Despite
facing these and other obstacles that could have destroyed a weaker
marriage, we have never felt the slightest threat to our
relationship.
We will help you make your
marriage just as impervious to whatever life throws at you and you
will enjoy doing it!
Everyone starts out expecting a
wonderful marriage but few know exactly how to accomplish that
elusive goal. I believe that if you want to know how be happily
married listen to a couple that’s been happily married for many
years which is what we did.
Based on statistics, most of you aren’t going to
know many people that fit that description. Even if you do, how many
do you feel comfortable asking details of how they handle sex, money
and other issues in their relationship? What to do.
It’s Simple. You
want to be happily married. We show couples how to be happily
married.
Our suggestions will make your life
together better; the more of them you incorporate into your daily
life, the happier you will be. If you follow them all you will be
happier than you can imagine.
Take heart, years ago we didn't have
a clue how to prepare for marriage either.
We are committed
to help others just as we were helped many years ago by sharing
advice literally forced upon me by Mr. Ken Burley, a business
consultant to my company. He told me he could tell that I had met
the man I was going to marry and he wanted to give me some
advice.
I barely knew him but I listened because I wanted to
talk about my spouse after 50 years of marriage with the love in
Ken's voice. We are forever in his debt. Based on all we’ve faced
over the years, his simple suggestion is the cornerstone that has
made all the difference between success and failure for us.
Once we understood you could
take charge of your future, we built on that
foundation and developed the other strategies we share in our book.
We have lived happier than we thought
possible without resentments, disputes or even serious arguments. I
say serious because, not wanting to burst any bubbles, we still have
disagreements and occasionally “Mellow” Mike will lose his
temper.
We have overcome numerous marriage threatening
challenges together without any threat to our relationship. You can
too by learning habits that will keep you happily married and
sustain a lifelong love affair.
Begin building your
future, today.
I hope I have convinced you that you
can benefit from the experience of others just as we did many years
ago, even if you don’t think you need it. Most people feel they will
be the happy exceptions. Millions make that mistake every year.
Whether it is our advice or that of someone else who has a great
marriage, please don’t let your marriage just "evolve." The odds are
heavily against success.
Even if you’re one of the fortunate
few to be raised in a home where your parents openly loved each
other and had a marriage to emulate, I'll bet that you have no idea
how they accomplished it. You saw the façade not the foundation.
Even if they are willing, they probably will not be able to tell you
exactly how they have done it. More than likely they belong to that
very small and very lucky group that somehow survives the “trial and
error method of marriage.”
Not a good approach.
We have been happily married for 25
years. Mike did it wrong and now he’s done it right. Our success is
not luck. It is the direct result of the strategies we learned,
developed and implemented throughout our marriage and share in our
book.
We offer the perspective of both wife
and husband but we don’t have you create our idea of a great
marriage. We help you realize the unique marriage dreams the two of
you envision and give you strategies that will accomplish
your goals not ours.
A few hours to learn simple
techniques you can start applying before the wedding and in those
first few months of marriage, will assure that you will thrive not
just survive, that each of you will get what you hope for from your
relationship, that you will be happily married and that your
love and respect for each other will grow stronger no
matter what life throws at you.
You have nothing to lose and
a lifetime of happiness to gain.
Great Marriages Don’t Just Happen.
Make Yours One Of Them.

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Stronger No Matter What Life Throws At
You?"
If you haven't yet, you soon will experience a
situation where, much to your surprise, you and your spouse aren't
on the same page and a "discussion" ensues. It happens to virtually
everyone.
Welcome to "The Trial And Error Method Of
Marriage" that leads 50% of couples to divorce and,
just as sad, leaves 40%
of the rest saying they're not happily
married!
If you want to make each other happy, share with
each other what will make you happy! Create your unique Marriage
PactTM today.
That one
simple step is the foundation for the success of your
marriage.
From: Charlie Michaels,
co-Author of “Mastering Marriage”
Dear
Newlywed,
Mike and I are ordinary people with
an extraordinary gift to share with you: the clues to growing
happier and more in love throughout your marriage.
You and your spouse are happy and in
love. Wouldn’t it be glorious to wake up every morning for the rest
of your life and feel as lucky to be with your partner as you do
right now?
Since this is what all
couples dream of, why do so few achieve it?
Can you imagine the outcome of your
wedding and reception if your big day had “evolved” without any
preparation? Even if chaos had not prevailed, the likelihood that
your wedding would have been remotely as you’d dreamed is nil.
You prepared for your wonderful
day, now prepare for your wonderful life!
Assuring success is easiest before
unexpected issues and misunderstandings occur which happens to every
married couple. Some small, some large. Some sooner, some later.
Some silly, some serious.
You are probably experiencing that
early “Adjustment Period” virtually every couple suffers through.
Unfortunately, many don’t make it but you can minimize your
discomfort by doing certain things as soon as possible.
Without Proper Preparation, Most
Marriages Will Fail. Most Marriages Fail.
The problem is people don’t even know
you can lay an impenetrable foundation for a marriage, let alone
how. When we ask if they prepared for marriage like they did for
their wedding, most couples ask us “What do you mean?”
It is easy to understand why so many
people are disillusioned soon after they marry and why most
marriages don’t last or in time are not satisfying.
Most people believe their marriage
will survive by addressing each problem and issue as it arises, that
their love is strong enough to get them through anything. Big
mistake.
All the couples who get divorced were
happy and in love on their wedding day and felt they would be joyful
exceptions to the statistics.
Just as sad those unhappy
couples that remain married but share only an address not a life. An
utterly disheartening state of affairs indeed. They too started out
with this same mistaken belief.
Don’t think that if you lived
together before you married you are immune. The failure rate of
those who did is even higher than for those who didn’t.
The honeymoon doesn’t
have to end....ever!
Most of the disappointments we suffer
in our lives are not because the actual situation is so terrible but
instead stem from the disillusionment that sets in when the reality
differs from our expectations. This is true in
marriage also.
Almost all of us had unrealistic
impressions of marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on
movies, TV, magazines and newspapers. In addition, most people
haven’t given any real thought to what they personally expect and
want from married life. They just get married.
We believe the major cause of the
early differences that can grow into marriage-ending problems is
that few people take the time to merge what they each wanted from
marriage into a common goal and define how they would achieve
it.
This isn’t because they didn’t care, because surely
they did, or because they were so busy, which they probably
were.
The truth is they
simply didn’t know what to do.
Their plan for their future together
was that they had no plan. Take heart, years ago we too had no clue
how to plan for marriage.
Even if you had pre-marriage
counseling by the clergy or a marriage professional, they will not
have covered the day to day strategies we share.
My husband and I wrote Mastering
Marriage for every couple who wants to grow happier and more in
love each year. It details every idea we have used for 25 years to
have a marriage that exceeds our wildest expectations and our
expectations were lofty!
The sooner you read about and
implement our suggestions the better. It’s much easier to avoid a
disagreement than to make adjustments after some conflict arises or
after you have somehow broken a rule you didn’t even know
existed!
A little effort now can avoid
situations that develop into problems that diminish or destroy
marriages. This is better than putting a lot of effort later into
attempting to smooth over a dispute after one of you is “right” and
the other “wrong”.
The result is a marriage that gets
better every year instead of a blah marriage or divorce.
In just a few
hours you can assure the success of your
marriage.
With a minimum of effort today, your
marriage will be everything you hope for. There are pitfalls you can
avoid and things you can do that will assure success.
A
sampling of the secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering
Marriage:
- Strengthen your commitment to
each other every day with three words more powerful than "I love
you" and end any disagreement....almost before it
begins.
- Step-by-step how to prepare your Marriage
Pact TM, the most important
document next to your license and the foundation for your
future happiness.
- The most effective communication technique ever
and the key to making each other happy every day, in good times
and bad.
- What each of you did when you dated that causes
disappointment after you marry and what you can do to correct
it.
- Your life together will be smoother once you
see through the “Mirage of Marriage” and don't put unrealistic
demands on each other.
- Mom's "magic words" are still magic in
marriage.
- Discover that the harder you work to be the
perfect spouse the more you can irritate your partner.
Ouch!
- Why Not To Treat Each Other Like Mr. Potato
Head®.
- The most important decisions to make about
sex and money, resolving two of the biggest areas of conflict in
marriage.
- Bend the Golden Rule and your spouse will
always be happy to be married to you.
- It's easy, fun and so wonderful to be one of
the fabulous exceptions that grows more in love and happier to be
married every year.
Give each other
the gift of a GREAT marriage.
Buy “Mastering Marriage” For
$19.95. Click
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Please don’t
leave the success of the most important relationship in your
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Our suggestions will make your life
together better; the more you incorporate into your daily life, the
happier you will be. If you follow them all, you will be happier
than you can imagine.
Believe me, we didn’t start out
as likely candidates to be writing a book on this topic. My dating
history ran from comical to sad to really pathetic. At my high
school graduation dinner, my classmates named me “the person most
likely to have her love life made into a soap opera.” And that was
before things got bad!
Ultimately, I was angry, hurt and
both hated men and needed their approval. I lacked positive role
models and had no apparent relationship skills. I am bossy,
demanding, strong willed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a
perfectionist. I also have many positive traits, I’m sure.
Mike went to an all boys’ high school
and admits to being backwards and awkward with women. He has an
explosive temper, is bossy, argumentative, strong willed, work
obsessed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist His
need to excel at work caused him to put in long hours and destroyed
his first marriage even though he admits he had a good wife.
Back then, we were “emotionally
challenged”. Mike’s divorce devastated him and I, though never
married, had perfected the art of selecting unsuitable partners.
Because we listened to and
implemented advice given to us by a couple who had been happily
married for 50 years at the time, we have been happier than we
thought possible for 25 years and, based on our personality traits,
this is no small feat. They were a minor challenge, however,
compared to the situations we have persevered through together over
the years.
A failed business, near bankruptcy,
living out of our car for a year, a twelve year remodeling project,
my eight year bout with clinical depression and giving my mother
hospice care for the last six months of her life are the short
list.
Despite facing these and other
obstacles that could have destroyed a weaker marriage, we never felt
the slightest threat to our relationship.
We will help you make your
marriage just as impervious to whatever life throws at you and you
will have fun doing it!
Everyone starts out expecting a
wonderful marriage but few know exactly how to accomplish that
elusive goal. I believe that if you want to know how be happily
married, listen to a couple that’s been happily married for many
years.
Based on statistics, most of you
aren’t going to know many people that fit that description. Even if
you do, how many do you feel comfortable asking details of how they
handle sex, money and other issues in their relationship? What to
do.
It’s Simple. You
want to remain happily married for life. We help couples stay
happily married for life.
We are committed to help others just
as we were helped many years ago by Mr. Ken Burley, a business
consultant to my company. He told me he could tell that I had met
the man I was going to marry and he wanted to give me some
advice.
I listened because I wanted to talk about my spouse
other after 50 years of marriage with the love in Ken's voice. We’ve
faced much over the years and his simple suggestion is the
cornerstone that made the difference between success and failure for
us. We are forever in his debt.
Once we understood that you could
take charge of your future, we built on that foundation and
developed the other strategies we share in our book.
We have lived happier than we thought
possible without resentments, disputes or even serious arguments. I
say serious because, not wanting to burst any bubbles, we still have
disagreements and occasionally “Mellow” Mike will lose his
temper.
We have overcome numerous challenges together without
any threat to our relationship. You can too by learning habits that
will keep you happily married and sustain a lifelong love
affair.
Tomorrow’s success
depends on what you do today.
I hope I have convinced you that you
can benefit from the experience of others just as we did many years
ago, even if you don’t think you need it. Whether it is our advice
or that of someone else that has a great marriage, please don’t let
your marriage “evolve” haphazardly. Millions try that and fail every
year. The odds are heavily against success.
Even if you’re one of the fortunate
few to be raised in a home where your parents openly loved each
other and had a marriage to emulate, it is a safe bet that you have
no idea how they accomplished it. You saw the façade not the
foundation. In addition, odds are even they will not be able to tell
you exactly how they have done it. More than likely they belong to
that very small and very lucky group that somehow survives the
“trial and error method of marriage.” Not a good
approach.
We have been happily married for 25
years. Mike did it wrong and now he’s done it right. Our success is
not luck. It is the direct result of the strategies we learned,
developed and implemented throughout our marriage and share in our
book.
We offer the perspective of both wife
and husband but we don’t have you create our idea of a great
marriage. We help you realize the unique marriage dreams you
envision and give you strategies that will accomplish
your goals not ours.
In a few hours you can learn simple
techniques you can apply immediately and that will assure you will
thrive not just survive, that each of you will get what you want
from your relationship and, more importantly, that your love
and respect for each other will grow stronger no matter
what life throws at you.
You have nothing to lose and
a lifetime of happiness to gain.
Great Marriages Don’t Just
Happen. It's Time To Move From "I Do" To "We Do"!

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Remember How
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"It Can Be
Even Better!"
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You no longer naively believe everything will just
naturally be perfect. You're not always on the same page.
"Miscommunications" have happened. Some pretty funny, others not
quite so funny. It happens to virtually everyone.
Most
couples simply follow this "Trial And Error Method Of Marriage"
until they divorce or are unhappy in their marriage. How sad and
totally unnecessary.
The first step towards living your
dream marriage is to have a shared dream.
Even if your
marriage isn't everything you hoped for, you can reignite your love
affair and have it last for life by developing shared goals and
giving each other the key to your happiness. Marriages don't remain
static. Either they are growing stronger or they are fading a little
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From: Charlie Michaels,
co-Author of “Mastering Marriage”
Dear
Marriage Partner,
Mike and I are ordinary people with
an extraordinary gift to share with you: the clues to growing
happier and more in love throughout your marriage.
Think back to your wedding and how
happy and in love you were. Wouldn’t it be glorious to wake up every
morning for the rest of your life and feel as lucky to be with your
partner as you did that day?
Since this is what all
couples dream of, why do so few achieve it?
Most people spend a great deal of
time preparing for their wedding and reception but simply allow
their marriage to “evolve” haphazardly through time.
You prepared for your wonderful
day, now prepare for your wonderful life!
Imagine the outcome of your big day
if it had “evolved” without any preparation. Even if chaos had not
prevailed, it’s virtually impossible that it would have been
remotely as you’d dreamed. It was true of the wedding and it is true
of the marriage.
The problem is people don’t even know
you can lay an impenetrable foundation for a marriage, let alone
how. When we ask if they have planned for their marriage like they
did for their wedding most couples ask us “What do you
mean?”
It is easy to understand why so many
people are disillusioned after they marry and why most marriages
don’t last. In our minds, even worse than divorce are couples that
merely exist together in a lifeless, blah marriage. A disheartening
state of affairs indeed.
Without Proper Preparation, Most
Marriages Will Fail. Most Marriages Fail.
Most of the disappointments we suffer
in our lives are not because the actual situation is so terrible but
instead stem from the disillusionment that sets in when the reality
differs from our expectations. This is true in
marriage also.
Almost all of us had unrealistic
impressions of marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on
movies, TV, magazines and newspapers. In addition, most people
hadn’t given any real thought as to what they personally expected
and wanted from married life. They just got married.
One of the major causes of the
differences that can grow into marriage-ending problems is that
people did not take the time to merge what they each wanted from
marriage into a common goal and define how they would achieve
it. This isn’t because they didn’t care, surely they did, or
because they were busy, which they probably were.
The truth is they simply
didn’t know what to do.
Their plan for their future together
was that they had no plan. Take heart, years ago we too had no clue
how to plan for marriage.
My husband and I wrote Mastering
Marriage for every couple who wants to grow happier and more in love
each year. It details every idea we have used for 25 years to have a
marriage that exceeds our wildest expectations and our expectations
were lofty.
The sooner you read about and
implement our suggestions the better. You’ve undoubtedly had
disagreements already that occurred because you somehow broke a rule
you didn’t even know existed!
We can’t change the past but we can
dramatically improve the future of your relationship. A little
effort today can avoid the situations that diminish marriages.
Create The
Marriage You Want Right In The Middle Of The Marriage You
Have
With a minimum of effort today, your
marriage will be everything you hope for. There are pitfalls you can
avoid and things you can do that will assure success.
A sampling of
secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering
Marriage:
- Your life together will run smoother after
you see through the “Mirage of Marriage” and stop putting
unrealistic demands on each other.
- Step-by-step how to prepare your Marriage
PactTM, the most important
document next to your license and the key to your future
happiness.
- The most effective communication technique
ever and the key to making each other happy every day, in good
times and bad.
- What each of you did way back when you dated
that undoubtedly has caused disappointment and what to do to
correct it.
- Strengthen your commitment to each other
every day with three words more powerful than "I love you" and end
any disagreement....almost before it begins!
- Mom's "magic words" are still magic in
marriage.
- Discover that the harder you work to be the
perfect spouse the more you can irritate your partner.
Ouch!
- Why not to treat each other like Mr. Potato
Head®.
- The most important decisions to make about
sex and money, resolving two of the biggest areas of conflict in
marriage. It’s not too late!
- Bend the Golden Rule and your spouse will be so
happy to be married to you.
- It's easy, fun and so wonderful to be one of
the fabulous exceptions that grows more in love and happier to be
married every year.
Great Marriages Don’t Just
Happen Take Charge Of Yours Today |
Buy “Mastering Marriage” For
$19.95. Click
Here To Order Our Beautiful Hardcover Version OR If You Are Impatient And
Can't Wait To Get Started, Click
Here To Download and Print Your Copy Immediately OR View Our Companion
Products And Special Package Deal
Buy
With Confidence All Products Sold On This Site Come With
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Believe me, we didn’t start out as
likely candidates to be writing a book on this topic. My dating
history ran from comical to sad to really pathetic. At my high
school graduation dinner, my classmates named me “the person most
likely to have her love life made into a soap opera.” And that was
before things got bad!
Ultimately, I was angry, hurt and
both hated men and needed their approval. I lacked positive role
models and had no apparent relationship skills. I am bossy,
demanding, strong willed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a
perfectionist. I also have many positive traits, I’m sure.
Mike went to an all boys’ high school
and admits to being backwards and awkward with women. He has an
explosive temper, is bossy, argumentative, strong willed, work
obsessed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist. His
need to excel at work caused him to put in long hours and destroyed
his first marriage even though he admits he had a good wife.
Back then, we were
emotionally challenged. Mike’s divorce devastated
him and I, though never married, had perfected the art of selecting
unsuitable partners.
Because we were lucky enough to
listen to and implement advice we were given by a couple who had
been married 50 years at the time, we have been happier than we
thought possible for 25 years and, based on our personality traits,
this is no small feat. They were a minor challenge, however,
compared to the situations we have persevered through together over
the years.
A failed business, near bankruptcy,
living out of our car for a year, a twelve year remodeling project,
my eight year bout with clinical depression and giving my mother
hospice care for the last six months of her life are the short
list.
Despite facing these and other
obstacles that could have destroyed a weaker marriage, we have never
felt a threat to our relationship and we will help you make your
marriage just as impervious to whatever life throws at you and you
will enjoy doing it!
You have nothing to lose
and a lifetime of happiness to gain. |
|
We are committed to help others
just as we were helped many years ago by sharing advice literally
forced upon me by Mr. Ken Burley, a business consultant to my
company. We listened because we wanted to talk about our spouse
after 50 years of marriage with the love in his voice.
We are
forever in his debt. We’ve faced much over the years and his simple
suggestion is the cornerstone that has made the difference between
success and failure for us.
Once we understood that you could
take charge of your future, we built on that
foundation and developed the other strategies we share in our book.
You want to be happily
married for life. We help couples be happily married for
life.
We have lived happier than we thought
possible without resentments, disputes or even serious arguments. I
say serious because, not wanting to burst any bubbles, we still have
disagreements and occasionally “Mellow” Mike will lose his
temper.
Together, we have overcome numerous challenges
without feeling any threat to our relationship. You can too by
learning habits that will keep you happy and sustain a lifelong love
affair.
Your marriage will become stronger as you incorporate
them into your daily life. The more you implement, the happier
you’ll be. Follow them all and have the marriage you want and be
happier than you can imagine!
Don’t leave the
most important relationship in your life to
chance
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I hope I have convinced you that you
can benefit from the experience of others just as we did many years
ago. Please don’t let your marriage just “evolve”. Millions try that
and fail every year.
Even if you actually know someone who
has been happily married for a long time and you would feel
comfortable asking about their relationship, chances are they will
not be able to tell you exactly how they have done it. More than
likely, they belong to that very small,and very lucky group that
somehow survives the “trial and error method of marriage.”
Not a good approach.
We have been happily married for 25
years. Mike did it wrong and now he’s done it right. Our success is
not luck. It is the direct result of the strategies we learned,
developed and implemented throughout our marriage and share in our
book.
We offer the perspective of both wife
and husband but we don’t have you create our idea of a great
marriage. We help you realize the unique marriage dreams you
envision and give you strategies that will accomplish
your goals not ours.
In a few hours you can learn simple
techniques you can apply immediately and that will assure you will
thrive not just survive, that each of you will get what you want
from your relationship and, more importantly, that your love
and respect for each other will grow stronger no matter
what life throws at you. |
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"The
Most Important Advantages To Give Your Children If You
Care About Their Future Happiness!"
From: Mike Brown, co-Author
of “Mastering Marriage”
Dear
Parent,
Could you ever have believed anyone
could capture your heart like your child has? No way! This love is
so all encompassing that we can easily become focused on providing
every "advantage."
We play classical music to them in the
womb. We worry about what pre-school they will attend, what grade
school. Will this high school get them into a good college? Do they
have the right clothing to be popular at school? Are they excelling
at this and that? Are they involved in every activity they need to
be well rounded? The list goes on and on.
I'm not saying that
none of these things are important but we need to keep in mind why
we are doing all this. What is your objective? Is it not that you
want your child to be happy?
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Life’s Greatest Gift Can Be Marriage’s Greatest
Challenge. When We Have A Child, It Is The First Time In our Life
That We've Given Unconditional Love. This Can Be So Emotionally
Overpowering That, With The Best Of Intentions, We Make Choices And
Do Things That Put Our Child’s Happiness And Our Marriage At
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The problem is that all of these
things take time and money on the part of parents. More money means
more effort at work which again takes more time. None of us got more
hours in a day when we had children, so all of this time has to come
out of the time we have for ourselves and, more importantly, out of
the time we have for our spouse. Our lives become child
centered.
We can become so distracted that we forget that the
role of a "successful parent" is to raise our children to be
self-sufficient adults. How do we do this?
Children learn most effectively by
doing or by example.
By Doing: To be self
sufficient, children need to learn necessary life skills by
performing them not being doted on and have everything done for
them. This is a true disservice to them and puts a bigger burden on
parents, usually mom.
In their early years, having them help
with the laundry, cooking, cleaning and other household chores will
take extra effort but the offset is that you are spending time with
your kids, teaching them skills and getting your work done all at
the same time! You don't have to rush to get "quality time" with
them. This is quality time. Get your spouse involved and it is a
true family activity.
Keep in mind, while these are chores to
you, if you start them young enough, they are not to them. The
younger you start, the less the battle because little kids always
want to do things that make them look and feel older and just about
all chores fit into that catagory when they are very young! Pay them
for their efforts and they will also learn the correlation between
work and money.
The real bonus comes later when their
abilities develop and you turn chores over to them completely and
have more time to be with alone with your spouse which brings me to
the real purpose of this letter.
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Don’t worry that your
children never listen to you; worry that they are always
watching you. Robert Fulghum,
Author
By Example: Happiness starts at home.
Good or bad, your marriage is "marriage" to your children. On a
daily basis, give them an example of a great marriage. The kind you
want for them when they grow up.
In addition to enjoying a
wonderful home life yourself, the icing on the cake comes years
later when they mature into a loving spouse and “successful parent"
which will make you prouder than you can imagine.
For this to happen, the two most important
“advantages” you can give your child are a secure, two-parent home
and an example of marriage where love and respect are the norm.
To do this, it is far better that you and your
spouse make time for each other than allow your child to become the
center of the universe. No one gets married to be number two or
three or four in their spouse’s life. This is especially true for
men who will rarely say anything until it is too
late.
Neither of you can be a good example of a loving spouse
if your child doesn’t see you being a loving spouse which means
putting your spouse ahead of your children as often as necessary to
keep the flame burning in your relationship.
This is far more important than the “advantages”
many parents strive so hard to provide for their children that they
have no time to devote to each other.
I love my kids more than I thought possible but
I’m not going to win a “Father Of The Year” award. Like too many
adults their age, my three wonderful, grown children had their world
turned upside down by divorce when they were young.
Your Great Marriage
Is The Best Gift You Can Give Your Child
I can tell you from personal experience that the
hurt we inflict on our children when our marriage fails is
devastating and does not end when they grow up.
A couple of years ago, my son was 33 and having
serious medical problems. I called to express my concern and to try
to coax him into taking better care of himself. Suddenly, he
screamed over the phone that I had no right to tell him what to do;
that I had given up that right years ago.
We had never discussed the pain the divorce caused
him but it was obvious in his voice and heartbreaking to me. He was
nine when I moved out yet his hurt was as intense as if it had been
yesterday. I’m sure his sisters have similar grief.
This anguish could have been avoided if I had kept
my priorities straight. His mother was a good wife that I neglected
because of my focus on success in the workplace. How ironic, that I
lost the very people for whom I was trying to provide a "better"
life, a bigger house, nicer things…the “advantages.” How
unimportant.
My second wife, Charlie and I are ordinary people
with an extraordinary gift to share with you: how to create a
marriage that is such a great example that your kids will want one
just like it!
Create The Marriage
You Want Right In The Middle Of The Marriage You Have
With a minimum of effort, your marriage can be
everything you hoped for. There are pitfalls you can avoid and
things you can do to assure success.
Implement our ideas and hit the trifecta! Even if
you've been married for years, if it is important to you and your
spouse, you can rekindle the flame, bask in the warmth of a lifelong
love affair and have kids that are happy now and in later life too!
A sampling of
the secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering
Marriage:
- Your life will be easier when you will see
through the “Mirage of Marriage” and stop putting unrealistic
demands on each other.
- How to prepare your Marriage PactTM, the most important document next to
your license and the key to your future happiness.
- The most effective communication technique
ever and the key to making each other happy every day, in good
times and bad.
- What each of you did way back when you dated
that has caused disappointment and what you can do to correct
it.
- Strengthen your commitment to each other
every day with three words more powerful than "I love you" and end
any disagreement....almost before it begins.
- Mom's "magic words" are still magic in
marriage.
- Discover that the harder you work to be the
perfect spouse the more you can irritate your partner.
Ouch!
- Why not to treat each other like Mr. Potato
Head®.
- The most important decisions to make about
sex and money resolving two of the biggest areas of conflict in
marriage. It’s not too late!
- Bend the Golden Rule and your spouse will be so
happy to be married to you.
- It's easy, fun and so wonderful to be one of
the fabulous exceptions that grows more in love and happier to be
married every year.
Give your child a very
special gift, a daily example of a great
marriage.
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$19.95. Click
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You prepared for a wonderful
day, now prepare for a wonderful life!
Think back to your wedding day and how happy and
in love you were. Wouldn’t it be glorious to wake up every morning
for the rest of your life and feel as lucky to be with your partner
as you did back then?
Since this is what all couples
dream of, why do so few achieve it?
Most people spend a great deal of time planning
their wedding and reception but simply allow their marriage to
“evolve” haphazardly through time.
Imagine the outcome of your big day if it had just
“evolved” without any planning. Even if chaos had not prevailed,
it’s virtually impossible that it would have been remotely as you’d
dreamed. It’s true of the wedding and it’s true of the marriage.
As you may be experiencing, the biggest challenge
of all can be children. When they become the main focus, your
marriage can be at risk. Your vitality and interest in each other
can be drained by the sheer demands on your time.
Without The Proper Care, Most
Marriages Will Fail. Most Marriages Fail.
The problem is people don’t even know you can lay
an impenetrable foundation for a marriage, let alone how. When we
ask if they have planned for their marriage like they did for their
wedding, most couples ask us “What do you mean?”
It is easy to see why so many people are
disillusioned after they marry and why over 50% of marriages don’t last.
Just as shocking is that of the couples that don’t divorce, sooner
or later, 4 out of 10 are
unhappily married!
In my mind, that is even worse than divorce for
the children. Divorce causes a child pain and insecurity but a
lifeless or combative example of marriage gives them daily
reinforcement that this is what married life holds in store for
them. How unfair when marriage can be so wonderful.
Why do so many marriages go from loving to
leaving?
Most of the disappointments we suffer in our lives
are not because the actual situation is so terrible but stem from
the disillusionment that occurs when the reality differs from
our expectations. This is true in marriage also.
Almost all of us had unrealistic impressions of
marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on movies, TV,
magazines and newspapers. In addition, most people hadn’t given any
real thought as to what they personally expected and wanted from
married life. They just got married.
One of the major causes of the differences that
can grow into marriage-ending problems is that few people take the
time to merge what they each expect from marriage into a common
goal and define how they will achieve it. This isn’t because
they didn’t care, surely they did, or because they were busy, which
they probably were.
The truth is they simply
didn’t know what to do.
Their plan for their future together was that they
had no plan. Take heart, years ago we too had no clue how to plan
for day-to-day married life.
My wife and I wrote Mastering Marriage for
every couple who wants to grow happier and more in love each year.
It details every idea we have used for 25 years to have a marriage
that exceeds our wildest expectations.
The sooner you read about and implement our
suggestions the better. You’ve undoubtedly had disagreements that
occurred because you somehow broke a rule you didn’t even know
existed!
We can’t change your past but we can dramatically
improve the future of your relationship. A little effort today can
avoid the situations that diminish marriages. The result is a great
example of marriage for your child to follow. |
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Believe me, we didn’t start out as likely
candidates to be writing a book on this topic. Charlie’s dating
history ran from comical to sad to really pathetic. At her high
school graduation dinner, her classmates named her “the person most
likely to have her love life made into a soap opera.” And that was
before things got bad!
Ultimately, she was angry, hurt and both hated men
and needed their approval. She says she had no positive role models
and no apparent relationship skills. She describes herself as bossy,
demanding, strong willed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a
perfectionist. Who am I to argue with her?
I went to an all boys’ high school and was
backwards and awkward with women. I have an explosive temper, am
bossy, argumentative, strong willed, impatient, work obsessed,
intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist. I also have a few
positive traits, I’m sure.
When Charlie and I met, we were what I would call
“emotionally challenged.” My divorce was
devastating to me and Charlie, though never married, had perfected
the art of selecting unsuitable partners.
Because we listened to and implemented advice
given to us by a couple who had been happily married for 50 years at
the time,we have been happier than we thought possible for 25 years
and, based on our personality traits, this is no small feat. They
were a minor challenge, however, compared to the situations we have
persevered through together over the years.
A failed business, near bankruptcy,
living out of our car for a year, a twelve year remodeling project,
Charlie's eight year bout with clinical depression and giving her
mother hospice care for the last six months of her life are the
short list.
Despite facing these and other
obstacles that could have destroyed a weaker marriage, we have never
felt a threat to our relationship and we will help you make your
marriage just as impervious to whatever life throws at you and you
will enjoy doing it!
Great Marriages Don’t Just Happen.
Make Yours One Of Them.
Our suggestions will make your marriage better
once you incorporate them into your daily life. The more you
implement, the happier you’ll be. Follow them all and you will have
the marriage you dreamed of and be happier than you can
imagine! |
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We want to help others just as we were helped
years ago by sharing advice literally forced upon Charlie by Mr. Ken
Burley, a business consultant to her company. He told her he could
tell that she had met the man she was going to marry and he wanted
to give her some advice.
She listened and took his advice to
heart because we wanted to talk about each other after 50 years of
marriage with the love that Ken had in his voice. We’ve faced a lot
over the years and his simple suggestion has been the cornerstone
that made the difference between success and failure for us. We are
forever in his debt.
It was eye opening. Once we understood that you
could actually take charge of your future, we built on that
foundation and developed the other strategies we share in our book.
We have lived happier than we thought possible
without resentments, conflicts or even serious arguements. I say
serious because, not wanting to burst any bubbles, we still have
disagreements and occasionally “Mellow” Mike (my son's nickname for
me) will lose his temper.
You too can create a bullet-proof
marriage by learning and implementing habits that will keep you
happy by building a partnership where you both get what you
want.
Please don’t
leave the success of the most important relationship in your life
to chance.
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I hope I have convinced you that you can benefit
from the experience of others just as we did many years ago. Please
don’t let your marriage just “evolve”. Millions try that and fail
very year.
Spoil your spouse not your children and you'll all
be happier. Children need a mother and a father. Don’t end up
being a part-time parent.
It would be comforting if we could all get our
marriage advice from those closest to us, whom we know and trust,
who have a marriage we could pattern ours after. Unfortunately, most
of us don’t know a lot people who have been happily married for many
years and far fewer with whom we would be at ease asking about the
details of how they make their relationship work.
Even if you know someone who meets the above
qualifications, chances are they will not be able to tell you how
they have done it. More than likely, they belong to that very small
and very lucky group that somehow survives the “trial and error
method of marriage.” Not a good approach.
We have been happily married for 25 years. I’ve
done it wrong and now I’ve done it right. Our success is not luck.
It is the direct result of the strategies we learned, developed and
implemented throughout our marriage and share in our book.
We offer the perspective of both wife and husband
but we don’t have you create our idea of a great marriage. We help
you realize the unique marriage dreams you envision and give you
strategies that will accomplish your goals not
ours.
A litte effort, a
lot of results.
In a few hours you can learn simple techniques you
can apply immediately and that will assure your marriage will thrive
not just survive, that each of you will get what you want from your
relationship and, more importantly, that your love and
respect for each other will grow stronger and your child
will know just how great marriage can be!
You have nothing to lose
and a lifetime of happiness to gain.
Don't delay, start
today. Buy our book
Mastering
Marriage. Implement the strategies
every day. Share your book with other couples
you care about. Tell others about your
success. Come back and let us know about your
experience.
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dreamed of is only a click away. Think of the great example
you’ll be setting.

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In Marriage, One Simple
Step Can Change "Failed It" To "Nailed
It"!
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In a prior life, you were happy and in love but
something went seriously wrong. Both the love and the happiness
disappeared. I know how devastating that is because, when it comes
to marriage, I too have "Failed It".
My bet is that
you simply followed "The Trial And Error Method Of Marriage"
just as my first wife and I did. You were sure your love would get
you through anything. Sadly, we both now know that simply isn't
true. You need love and respect but it takes even more.
So
how can you be sure your marriage dreams come true this time? To
"Nail It."
The secret is to not only to give each
other the key to your heart but to also share the key to your
happiness and we will show you, step-by step, how to do
this. |
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From: Mike Brown, co-Author
of “Mastering Marriage”
Dear Fellow
Believer,
Congratulations on believing in
marriage, on not giving up because your previous marriage didn’t
survive. It’s hard to pick yourself up and open your heart again but
having the right person to share your life with is worth the risk
and the greatest feeling in the world.
If you are willing to lay the
foundation for this marriage and have the integrity to live by the
ground rules you establish, you can have the marriage of your
dreams.
Think back to your previous wedding
day and how happy and in love you were. Wouldn’t it be glorious to
wake up every morning for the rest of your life and feel as lucky to
be with your partner as you did then?
Since this is what all
couples dream of, why do so few achieve it?
You spent a lot of time preparing
for your wonderful day, now spend a little time
preparing for your wonderful life!
Most people spend a great deal of
time preparing for their wedding and reception but simply allow
their marriage to “evolve” haphazardly through time.
Imagine the outcome of your big day
if it had “evolved” without any preparation. Even if chaos had not
prevailed, it’s virtually impossible that it would have been
remotely as you’d dreamed. It’s true of the wedding and it’s true of
the marriage.
Without Proper
Preparation, Most Marriages Will Fail. Most Marriages
Fail.
The problem is people don’t even know
you can lay an impenetrable foundation for a marriage, let alone
how. When we ask if they prepared for their marriage like they did
for their wedding most couples ask us “What do you mean?”
It is easy to understand why so many
people are disillusioned after they marry and why most marriages
don’t last or, eventually, are not satisfying.
Most of the disappointments we suffer
in our lives are not because the actual situation is so terrible but
instead stem from the disillusionment that sets in when the reality
differs from our expectations. This is true in
marriage also.
Almost all of us had unrealistic
impressions of marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on
movies, TV, magazines and newspapers. In addition, most people
hadn’t given any real thought as to what they personally expected
and wanted from married life. They just got married.
One of the major causes of the
differences that can grow into marriage-ending problems is that
people do not have a well defined marriage dream. This isn’t because
they didn’t care, surely they did, or because they were busy, which
they probably were.
The truth
is they simply didn’t know what to do.
Their plan for their future together
was that they had no plan.
My wife and I wrote Mastering
Marriage for every couple who wants to grow happier and more in
love each year. It details every idea we have used for
25 years to have a marriage that exceeds our
wildest expectations.
The sooner you implement our
suggestions the better. Avoid a disagreement because you somehow
broke a rule you didn’t even know existed!
We can’t change the past but we can
dramatically improve the future of your relationship. A little
effort today can avoid the situations that diminish marriages.
The result is a glowing
marriage instead of a blah marriage or divorce.
With a minimum of effort today, your
marriage will be everything you hope for. There are pitfalls you can
avoid and things you can do that will assure success.
A
few of the many secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering
Marriage:
- Exactly how to prepare your Marriage PactTM, the most important document next to
your license and the foundation for your future
happiness.
- The most effective communication technique ever
and the key to making each other happy every day, in good times
and bad.
- What we all do when we date that causes
disappointment after we wed and what you can do to correct
it.
- Strengthen your commitment to each other
every day with three words more powerful than "I love you" and end
any disagreement....almost before it begins!
- Why not to treat each other like Mr. Potato
Head®.
- Discover that the harder you work to be the
perfect spouse the more you can irritate your partner.
Ouch!
- Mom's magic words, are still magic in
marriage.
- Your life will run smoother once you see
through the “Mirage of Marriage” and don't put unrealistic demands
on each other.
- Bend the Golden Rule and your spouse will be so
happy to be married to you.
- The most important decisions to make about
sex and money resolving two of the biggest areas of conflict in
marriage.
- “Happily Married” is not an oxymoron! It's
easy, fun and so wonderful to grow more in love and happier to be
married every year.
Give each other a
wonderful gift, a rock solid marriage full of love and
respect.
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Buy “Mastering Marriage” For
$19.95. Click
Here To Order Our Beautiful Hardcover Version OR If You Are Impatient And
Can't Wait To Get Started, Click
Here To Download and Print Your Copy Immediately OR View Our Companion
Products And Special Package Deal
Buy
With Confidence All Products Sold On This Site Come With
Our “We Want You To Be Happy” Lifetime Guarantee
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Great Marriages Don’t Just
Happen. Make Yours One Of The Wonderful Exceptions.
My wife, Charlie, and I are ordinary
people with an extraordinary gift to share with you: the clues to
being happily married.
Our suggestions will make your marriage better as
you incorporate them into your daily life. The more you implement,
the happier you’ll be. Follow them all and you will have the
marriage you dreamed of and be happier than you can imagine!
We surely didn’t start out as likely
candidates to be writing a book on this topic, however. Years ago we
had no clue how to prepare for marriage.
Charlie’s dating history ran from
comical to sad to really pathetic. At her high school graduation
dinner, her classmates named her “the person most likely to have her
love life made into a soap opera.” And that was before things got
bad!
Ultimately, she was angry, hurt and
both hated men and needed their approval. She had no positive role
models and no apparent relationship skills. She describes herself as
bossy, demanding, strong willed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense
and a perfectionist. Who am I to argue with her?
I went to an all boys’ high school
and was backwards and awkward with women. I have an explosive
temper, am bossy, argumentative, strong willed, impatient, work
obsessed, intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist. I also have a
few positive traits, I’m sure.
When Charlie and I met, we were what
I would call “emotionally challenged.” My divorce
was devastating to me and Charlie, though never married, had
perfected the art of selecting unsuitable partners.
Because we followed advice from a
couple that had been happily married 50 years at the time, we have
been happier than we thought possible for 25 years and, based on our
personality traits, this is no small feat. They were a minor
challenge, however, compared to the situations we have persevered
through together over the years.
A failed business, near bankruptcy,
living out of our car for a year, a twelve year remodeling project,
Charlie's eight year bout with clinical depression and giving her
mother hospice care for the last six months of her life are the
short list.
Despite facing these and other
obstacles that could have destroyed a weaker marriage, we have never
felt a threat to our relationship. We will help you make your
marriage just as impervious to whatever life throws at you and you
will enjoy the process. |
|
We wrote Mastering
Marriage to help others just as we were helped many years ago.
Back then, we, like most couples, had no idea how to prepare for
married life until an unlikely incident started us down the right
path and changed our future.
We are committed to pass forward
advice literally forced upon Charlie by Mr. Ken Burley, a business
consultant to her company. He told her he could tell she had met the
man she was going to marry and he wanted to give her some advice.
She listened because she too wanted to speak about her spouse after
50 years of marriage with the love in Ken's voice.
Based on all we've been through, his
simple suggestion is the cornerstone that has made the difference
between success and failure for us. Because of Ken, we've "nailed
it" and we are forever in his debt.
It’s
Simple. You want to be happily married for life. We help
couples be happily married for
life.
Once we understood that you could
take charge of your future, we built on that
foundation and developed the other strategies we share in our book.
We have lived happier than we thought
possible without resentments, disputes or even serious arguments. I
say serious because, not wanting to burst any bubbles, we still have
disagreements and occasionally “Mellow” Mike will lose his
temper.
Together, we have overcome numerous challenges
without any threat to our relationship. You can too by learning
habits that will keep you happy and sustain a lifelong love affair
by building a partnership where both you and your spouse get what
you want.
Only you can
assure the success of the most important relationship in your
life. Do it.
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I hope I have convinced you that you
can benefit from the experience of others just as we did many years
ago. Please don’t let your marriage just “evolve”. Millions try that
and fail every year. The odds are heavily against success.
Even if you actually know someone who
has been happily married for a long time and you would feel
comfortable asking about their relationship, chances are high that
they will not be able to tell you exactly how they have done it.
More than likely, they belong to that very small and very lucky
group that somehow survives the “trial and error method of
marriage.” Not a good approach.
We have been happily married for 25
years. I did it wrong and now I’ve done it right. Our success is not
luck. It is the direct result of the strategies we learned,
developed and implemented throughout our marriage and share in our
book.
We offer the perspective of both wife
and husband but we don’t have you create our idea of a great
marriage. We help you realize the unique marriage dreams you
envision and give you strategies that will accomplish
your goals not ours.
In a few hours you can learn simple
techniques you can apply immediately and that will assure you will
thrive not just survive, that each of you will get what you want
from your relationship and, more importantly, that your love
and respect for each other will grow stronger no matter
what life throws at you.
You have nothing to lose and
a lifetime of happiness to gain.
To make your marriage
everything you hope for, take action now.
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Stops Giving - Give The Secrets To Creating A Great
Marriage!
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It Has Been Estimated That 3
Out Of 4 Of Marriages Are In Trouble The Day They
Start!
This Is Because Most Couples Simply Follow "The
Trial And Error Method Of Marriage" Until They Divorce Or Are
Unhappily Married!
Your Couple Will Enjoy A Wonderful Future
If They Define What A Successful Marriage Means To Them And Agree On
How They Will Achieve That Elusive Goal.
Help Them Be One
Of The Exceptions That Grow Happier And More In Love Each Year.
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From: Charlie Michaels,
co-Author of “Mastering Marriage”
Dear
Friend Of The Bride or Groom,
Mike and I are ordinary people with
an extraordinary gift to share with your special couple: the clues
to growing happier and more in love throughout their marriage.
Their honeymoon doesn’t have
to end....ever!
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if the newlyweds could
wake up every morning for the rest of their lives and feel as lucky
to be with their partner as they do right now?
Most people spend a great deal of time preparing
for their wedding but simply allow their marriage to “evolve”
haphazardly through time. Can you imagine the outcome of a wedding
and reception if they had just “evolved” without preparation? Even
if chaos had not prevailed, the likelihood that the day would have
been remotely as dreamed about is nil.
It's true of the wedding, it's true of the
marriage.
By Preparing For Their Wedding,
They'll Enjoy A Wonderful Day But By
Preparing For Their Marriage, They'll Enjoy A Wonderful
Life!
When we ask if they prepared for their marriage
like they did for their wedding most couples ask us “What do
you mean?”
It is easy to understand why so many people are
disillusioned soon after they marry and why most marriages don’t
last or in time are not satisfying. Most couple start marriage with
no plan.
When they wed, most people believe their marriage
will survive by addressing each problem and issue as it arises, that
their love is strong enough to get them through anything. Big
mistake.
All the couples who end up divorced were happy and
in love on their wedding day and felt that same way. That they would
be joyful exceptions to the statistics.
In our minds, even
worse than divorce are those unhappy couples that remain married but
share only an address not a life. An utterly disheartening state of
affairs indeed. They too started out with this same mistaken
belief.
Show how much you
care by not leaving the success of the most important
relationship in their life to chance.
Most of the disappointments we suffer in our lives
are not because the actual situation is so terrible but instead stem
from the disillusionment that sets in when the reality
differs from our expectations. This is true in
marriage also.
Almost all of us had unrealistic impressions of
marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on movies, TV,
magazines and newspapers. In addition, most people don’t give any
real thought as to what they personally expect and want from married
life. They just get married.
We believe the major cause of the early
differences that can grow into marriage- ending problems is that
people did not properly prepare for being
married. This isn’t because they didn’t care, because
surely they did, or because they were so busy, which they probably
were.
The truth is they simply didn’t
know what to do.
Even if your couple had pre-marriage counseling,
they will not have been exposed to the day-to-day strategies we
share.
My husband and I wrote Mastering Marriage for
every couple who wants to grow happier and more in love each year.
It details every idea we have used for 25 years to
have a marriage that exceeds our wildest expectations and our
expectations were lofty!
The sooner they read and implement our suggestions
the better. It is much easier to avoid a disagreement than to make
adjustments after some conflict arises or after they have somehow
broken a rule they didn’t even know existed!
A little effort now can avoid situations that
develop into problems that diminish or destroy marriages. This is
better than putting a lot of effort later into attempting to smooth
over a dispute after one of them is “right” and the other “wrong”.
The result is a glowing marriage instead
of a blah marriage or divorce.
With a minimum of effort today, their marriage
will be everything they hope for. There are pitfalls they can avoid
and things they can do that will assure success.
A sampling of
secrets they’ll uncover in Mastering
Marriage:
- Exactly how to prepare their Marriage
Pact TM, the most important
document next to their license and the foundation for their future
happiness.
- What each of them is doing right now that will
cause disillusionment after they marry and what they can do
starting immediately to prevent it.
- How to strengthen their commitment to each
other every day with three words more powerful than "I love you
and end any disagreement..almost before it begins.
- Mom's "magic words" are still magic in
marriage.
- The most effective communication technique
ever and the key to making each other happy every day, in good
times and bad.
- Bending the Golden Rule, means they'll have a
better marriage.
- They will discover that the harder they work
to be the perfect spouse the more they may irritate their partner.
Ouch!
- Why not to treat each other like Mr. Potato
Head®.
- The most important decisions to make about
sex and money resolving two of the biggest areas of conflict in
marriage.
- Their life together will be smoother once they
see through the “Mirage of Marriage” and avoid putting unrealistic
demands on each other.
- They will become one of the fabulous
exceptions that grow more in love and happier to be married each
year.
Assuring marital success is easiest before
unexpected issues and misunderstandings occur which happens to
every married couple. Some small, some large. Some sooner,
some later. Some silly, some serious.
Without Proper Preparation, Most
Marriages Will Fail. Most Marriages Fail. |
Click
Here To Buy Our Beautiful Hardcover Version
of Mastering Marriage For
$19.95. OR View Our Companion
Products And Special Package Deal
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We help couples stay
happily married for life.
Believe me, we didn’t start out as
likely candidates to be writing a book on this topic. My dating
history ran from comical to sad to really pathetic. I am bossy,
demanding, strong willed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a
perfectionist. I also have many positive traits, I’m sure.
Mike has an explosive temper, is
bossy, argumentative, strong willed, work obsessed, impatient,
intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist. His need to excel at
work caused him to put in long hours at the office and destroyed his
first marriage.
In spite of this, we have been
happier than we thought possible for 25 years and, based on our
personality traits, this is no small feat. They were a minor
challenge, however, when compared to the situations we have
persevered through together over the years.
A failed business, near bankruptcy,
living out of our car for a year, a twelve year remodeling project,
my eight year bout with clinical depression and giving my mother
hospice care for the last six months of her life are the short
list.
Despite facing these and other
obstacles that could have destroyed a weaker marriage, we have never
felt a threat to our relationship and we will help make your
newlywed’s marriage just as impervious to what life throws at them.
And they will have fun doing it!
Everyone starts out expecting a
wonderful marriage but few know exactly how to accomplish that
elusive goal. I believe that if you want to know how be happily
married it’s best to listen to a couple that’s been happily married
for many years like we did. |
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Help them avoid
future problems by guiding their marriage in the right direction
today.
Our suggestions will make their life together
better; the more they incorporate into their daily life, the happier
they will be. If they follow them all, they will be happier than
they can imagine. What other gift can accomplish all this?
We want to help others just as we were helped many
years ago by sharing advice we received before we got married, from
a man that had been happily married for 50 years at the time.
Following his simple suggestion has made the difference between
success and failure for us and we are forever in his debt.
Once we understood that you could take
charge of your future, we built on that foundation and
developed other strategies and detail them in our book.
We have lived happier than we thought possible
without resentments, disputes or even serious arguments. I say
serious because, not wanting to burst any bubbles, we still have
disagreements and occasionally “Mellow” Mike will lose his
temper.
Together, we have overcome numerous challenges
without any threat to our relationship. They can do the same by
learning habits that will keep them happy and sustain a lifelong
love affair by building a partnership where each of them gets what
they want.
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years ago.
We have been happily married for 25 years. Mike
did it wrong and now he’s done it right. Our success is not luck. It
is the direct result of the strategies we learned, developed and
implemented throughout our marriage and share in our book.
We offer the perspective of both wife and husband
but we don’t try to have them create our idea of a great marriage
but help them realize the marriage dreams they envision. We give
them strategies that will accomplish their
goals not ours.
In a few hours, they will learn simple techniques
they can start applying at once that will assure that they will
thrive not just survive, that each of them will get what they want
from their relationship and, more importantly, that their
love and respect for each other will grow stronger no
matter what life throws at them.
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It Has Been Estimated That 3
Out Of 4 Of Marriages Are In Trouble The Day They
Start!
This Is Because Most Couples Simply Follow "The
Trial And Error Method Of Marriage" Until They Divorce Or Are
Unhappily Married!
Your Couple Will Enjoy A Wonderful Future
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How They Will Achieve That Elusive Goal.
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Of The Exceptions That Grow Happier And More In Love Each Year.
From: Charlie Michaels,
co-Author of “Mastering Marriage”
Dear
Friend Of The Bride or Groom,
Mike and I are ordinary people with
an extraordinary gift to share with your special couple: the clues
to growing happier and more in love throughout their marriage.
Their honeymoon doesn’t have
to end....ever!
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if the newlyweds could
wake up every morning for the rest of their lives and feel as lucky
to be with their partner as they do right now?
Most people spend a great deal of time preparing
for their wedding but simply allow their marriage to “evolve”
haphazardly through time. Can you imagine the outcome of a wedding
and reception if they had just “evolved” without preparation? Even
if chaos had not prevailed, the likelihood that the day would have
been remotely as dreamed about is nil.
It's true of the wedding, it's true of the
marriage.
By Preparing For Their Wedding,
They'll Enjoy A Wonderful Day But By
Preparing For Their Marriage, They'll Enjoy A Wonderful
Life!
When we ask if they prepared for their marriage
like they did for their wedding most couples ask us “What do
you mean?”
It is easy to understand why so many people are
disillusioned soon after they marry and why most marriages don’t
last or in time are not satisfying. Most couple start marriage with
no plan.
When they wed, most people believe their marriage
will survive by addressing each problem and issue as it arises, that
their love is strong enough to get them through anything. Big
mistake.
All the couples who end up divorced were happy and
in love on their wedding day and felt that same way. That they would
be joyful exceptions to the statistics.
In our minds, even
worse than divorce are those unhappy couples that remain married but
share only an address not a life. An utterly disheartening state of
affairs indeed. They too started out with this same mistaken
belief.
Show how much you
care by not leaving the success of the most important
relationship in their life to chance.
Most of the disappointments we suffer in our lives
are not because the actual situation is so terrible but instead stem
from the disillusionment that sets in when the reality
differs from our expectations. This is true in
marriage also.
Almost all of us had unrealistic impressions of
marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on movies, TV,
magazines and newspapers. In addition, most people don’t give any
real thought as to what they personally expect and want from married
life. They just get married.
We believe the major cause of the early
differences that can grow into marriage- ending problems is that
people did not properly prepare for being
married. This isn’t because they didn’t care, because
surely they did, or because they were so busy, which they probably
were.
The truth is they simply didn’t
know what to do.
Even if your couple had pre-marriage counseling,
they will not have been exposed to the day-to-day strategies we
share.
My husband and I wrote Mastering Marriage for
every couple who wants to grow happier and more in love each year.
It details every idea we have used for 25 years to
have a marriage that exceeds our wildest expectations and our
expectations were lofty!
The sooner they read and implement our suggestions
the better. It is much easier to avoid a disagreement than to make
adjustments after some conflict arises or after they have somehow
broken a rule they didn’t even know existed!
A little effort now can avoid situations that
develop into problems that diminish or destroy marriages. This is
better than putting a lot of effort later into attempting to smooth
over a dispute after one of them is “right” and the other “wrong”.
The result is a glowing marriage instead
of a blah marriage or divorce.
With a minimum of effort today, their marriage
will be everything they hope for. There are pitfalls they can avoid
and things they can do that will assure success.
A sampling of
secrets they’ll uncover in Mastering
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- Exactly how to prepare their Marriage
Pact TM, the most important
document next to their license and the foundation for their future
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- What each of them is doing right now that will
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- How to strengthen their commitment to each
other every day with three words more powerful than "I love you
and end any disagreement..almost before it begins.
- Mom's "magic words" are still magic in
marriage.
- The most effective communication technique
ever and the key to making each other happy every day, in good
times and bad.
- Bending the Golden Rule, means they'll have a
better marriage.
- They will discover that the harder they work
to be the perfect spouse the more they may irritate their partner.
Ouch!
- Why not to treat each other like Mr. Potato
Head®.
- The most important decisions to make about
sex and money resolving two of the biggest areas of conflict in
marriage.
- Their life together will be smoother once they
see through the “Mirage of Marriage” and avoid putting unrealistic
demands on each other.
- They will become one of the fabulous
exceptions that grow more in love and happier to be married each
year.
Assuring marital success is easiest before
unexpected issues and misunderstandings occur which happens to
every married couple. Some small, some large. Some sooner,
some later. Some silly, some serious.
Without Proper Preparation, Most
Marriages Will Fail. Most Marriages Fail.
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happily married for life.
Believe me, we didn’t start out as
likely candidates to be writing a book on this topic. My dating
history ran from comical to sad to really pathetic. I am bossy,
demanding, strong willed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a
perfectionist. I also have many positive traits, I’m sure.
Mike has an explosive temper, is
bossy, argumentative, strong willed, work obsessed, impatient,
intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist. His need to excel at
work caused him to put in long hours at the office and destroyed his
first marriage.
In spite of this, we have been
happier than we thought possible for 25 years and, based on our
personality traits, this is no small feat. They were a minor
challenge, however, when compared to the situations we have
persevered through together over the years.
A failed business, near bankruptcy,
living out of our car for a year, a twelve year remodeling project,
my eight year bout with clinical depression and giving my mother
hospice care for the last six months of her life are the short
list.
Despite facing these and other
obstacles that could have destroyed a weaker marriage, we have never
felt a threat to our relationship and we will help make your
newlywed’s marriage just as impervious to what life throws at them.
And they will have fun doing it!
Everyone starts out expecting a
wonderful marriage but few know exactly how to accomplish that
elusive goal. I believe that if you want to know how be happily
married it’s best to listen to a couple that’s been happily married
for many years like we did.
Help them avoid
future problems by guiding their marriage in the right direction
today.
Our suggestions will make their life together
better; the more they incorporate into their daily life, the happier
they will be. If they follow them all, they will be happier than
they can imagine. What other gift can accomplish all this?
We want to help others just as we were helped many
years ago by sharing advice we received before we got married, from
a man that had been happily married for 50 years at the time.
Following his simple suggestion has made the difference between
success and failure for us and we are forever in his debt.
Once we understood that you could take
charge of your future, we built on that foundation and
developed other strategies and detail them in our book.
We have lived happier than we thought possible
without resentments, disputes or even serious arguments. I say
serious because, not wanting to burst any bubbles, we still have
disagreements and occasionally “Mellow” Mike will lose his
temper.
Together, we have overcome numerous challenges
without any threat to our relationship. They can do the same by
learning habits that will keep them happy and sustain a lifelong
love affair by building a partnership where each of them gets what
they want.
You Cannot Give A
More Thoughtful Gift
I hope I have convinced you that your special
couple can benefit from the experience of others just as we did many
years ago.
We have been happily married for 25 years. Mike
did it wrong and now he’s done it right. Our success is not luck. It
is the direct result of the strategies we learned, developed and
implemented throughout our marriage and share in our book.
We offer the perspective of both wife and husband
but we don’t try to have them create our idea of a great marriage
but help them realize the marriage dreams they envision. We give
them strategies that will accomplish their
goals not ours.
In a few hours, they will learn simple techniques
they can start applying at once that will assure that they will
thrive not just survive, that each of them will get what they want
from their relationship and, more importantly, that their
love and respect for each other will grow stronger no
matter what life throws at them.
Great Marriages Don’t Just
happen.
So, what are you waiting
for? Buy our book Mastering
Marriage. Give it to the lucky couple.
If it is a wedding gift, give it to them as soon as it arrives.
The best possible time to start implementing the clues is before the
wedding.
Help them realize the
marriage of their dreams.

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ABOUT THE AUTHORS

Hi. My
name is Carol,
but I prefer to go by my nickname, Charlie. Mike and I are
ordinary people with an extraordinary gift we would like to pass
on to you: the secrets of staying happy and in love.
We didn’t
start out as likely candidates to be writing a book of this
nature.
My dating
history goes from comical to sad to really pathetic. At my high
school graduation dinner, my classmates named me "The person
most likely to have her love life made into a soap opera." And
they knew me before things got bad.
Ultimately, I was angry, hurt and both hated men and needed
their approval. I had no positive relationship role models. I am
a perfectionist as well as bossy, demanding, strong-willed,
impatient and intolerant of nonsense.
Mike
doesn’t really have a dating history. He went to an all boys’
high school and admits to being completely backwards and awkward
with women. He has an explosive temper and is a perfectionist.
He is also bossy, argumentative, demanding, strong-willed,
work-obsessed, impatient and intolerant of nonsense.
His need to excel at work caused him to put in 15-18 hour days
at the office and destroyed his first marriage. His
grandparents’ marriage was a great role model, but his parents’
marriage was stormy and competitive.
Like most
couples getting ready to marry, we were happy and in love but
didn’t have a clue how to stay that way. We had both lost at
love before and we were determined not to repeat our mistakes.
We didn’t know where to begin, but we knew we wanted to enjoy
each other in our marriage forever. And, we wanted our forever
to last our lifetimes.
We spent a
lot of time and effort developing strategies to keep our
marriage thriving and fulfilling. Twenty-four years later these
strategies are still working for us. This was a deliberate plan
of action we implemented…not some esoteric theory we devised to
reinvent ourselves, but simple steps we undertook to help us
maintain our perspective, align our priorities and stay in touch
with each other on mental, emotional and physical levels.
We believe these simple strategies will work equally well for
you.
Mike and I
have worked hard to maintain a fabulous relationship. People
have sometimes assumed that we must have lived on easy street to
remain this devoted to each other after a quarter century. Quite
the opposite:
- A few months after we
married, we left well established business careers in
Fortune 500 companies to start our own company. It failed.
- We sold everything we
owned to pay business debts and child support and were $800
short of bankruptcy.
- Following our business
failure, we took a series of odd jobs. We cleaned hotel
rooms and did small home improvement projects. Mike drove a
fork-lift at a warehouse while I worked at a fast food
restaurant. At times we lived with relatives exchanging our
labor for room and board.
- We moved to the town
where Mike’s children were so his son would live with us.
Homework was a battle every night, but his grades came up.
After a six month trial he chose to return to his mother’s
home which just about crushed Mike.
- We traveled the
country living on bologna sandwiches and camping out of our
car for 18 months while we decided where we would live.
- When Mike’s mother
became ill, we drove 4200 miles in 6 days to get to Ohio
from Alaska, moved in and cared for her for 6 months to
allow her to stay at home with her beloved dogs until she
needed full nursing care. Did I mention that she didn’t like
me?
- Mike moved to a city
he hated and took a job he didn’t want so that I could
pursue an acting career (unless you attended the Los Angeles
County Sheriff’s training academy you’ve never seen me).
- My mother lived with
us for 5 months of hospice care until her death.
As I
review the previous litany, I realize I haven’t touched on my
eight year bout with untreated clinical depression, Mike’s
broken bones and chronic back pain, my thyroid problems, our
infertility and unsuccessful attempts to have a baby, the winter
we lived in an unheated house without a back wall or roof
because our demolition got ahead of our drawings for the
renovation, our twelve year remodeling project...
It’s
embarrassing to think how much longer I could make the above
list. And, yes, in spite of all of the above, it has been a
great life. We have been incredibly blessed.
Any one of
the above listed events could have destroyed a relationship. Why
did ours not only survive, but thrive? We learned how to
maintain our perspective, align our priorities and stay in touch
with each other on mental, emotional and physical levels.
When
things ultimately did get serious between myself and Mike we
followed the advice we had received from a man I had worked with
but barely knew, Ken Burley who was a consultant to my company.
Ken told me he could tell I had met the man I was going to marry
and he wanted to share an exercise he and his wife, Mary, had
done before they married.
They had sat down separately and written out every expection
they had of married life. They then compared their lists and
worked out an agreeable solution whereever there was a
difference and he detailed some serious differences.
I wanted to give our marriage every chance of getting off on the
right foot and I wanted to talk about my spouse after 50 years
of marriage with the love in Ken's voice.
It made sense that if we worked out our differences in advance
they wouldn't rear their head and be a problem later. Being a
conflict avoider, I loved it but I didn't really think Mike
would be interested in putting our relationship under such
scrutiny but thankfully he was. In fact, he thought it sounded
like a very good idea. He didn't want to fail this time.
We decided
the idea merited a weekend. In preparation, we individually
wrote out our assumptions on every topic that came to mind. I
had thirty-eight pages and Mike had eight!
Suddenly,
I wasn't so sure I should have brought it up. Something inside
me expected him to finally know all about me and dump me! Talk
about insecure - I still have the card I bought to send him if
we broke up.
Friday we
began comparing our ideas.
It was an
incredible three days: fun, heartwarming, endearing, hilarious,
occasionally infuriating, with a few moments of sheer panic. The
things we learned about each other! No, we didn't agree on
everything. But in our disagreement, it was thrilling to
experience each other's commitment to our relationship.
We
laughed, we cried, we shared hopes, dreams, secrets and fears
that we had never trusted to anyone. Under all the passion and
love that had been between us, we discovered that we really,
really, REALLY liked each other.
Ultimately, we devised a list of mutual agreements as the result
of negotiation and compromise. We called this our Marriage Pact
and pledged to honor it.
It was the
best investment either of us ever made in a relationship. We
eliminated many nagging doubts, honestly addressed problems we
would face, nipped disagreements in the bud and set the stage to
become best friends.
Ken’s
technique worked! And so did the other strategies we put into
place. For nearly a quarter of a century we have lived happily
without resentments, arguments or even serious disagreements. We
have faced and overcome numerous challenges without ever feeling
any threat to our relationship; in fact our partnership has
grown stronger with each adversity we’ve faced.
Over the
years we repeatedly thanked Ken and Mary for sharing this
technique with us and told them they owed it to the world to
share their message. Ken’s reply was that someone else was going
to have to do it, why didn’t we? Indeed.
In 1990 we
wrote a book, Avoiding Wedding Aftershock or I Like You Even
Better Now That I Know You, to do just that. Unfortunately, our
self-published volume never really got off the ground. We sold
about two thousand copies before we ran out of money to promote
it.
And then
both Ken and Mary died. Natural deaths, but they’re gone just
the same. And it brought to mind that some day we would be gone
too and what would happen to this incredible advice?
The
information is incredibly valuable. It was unthinkable that we
would allow it to die with us. We decided to make a more
concerted effort to make this information available to other
couples. So while our original book continues to be purchased by
a very limited, but loyal following of clergy and marriage and
family counselors, we have expanded on and reorganized the
information and done our best to make it more user-friendly.
Additionally, at the request of prior readers, we have created
an optional workbook that can be used along with this book if
you like. The workbook is available through the bookstore where
you purchased this book or online through our website,
www.MasteringMarriage.com.
So there
you have it. Couples who read drafts of this book uniformly said
they benefited from the information regardless of the stage of
their relationship: seriously dating, engaged, newlywed,
happily-on-going, at a crossroads, even those together upwards
of fifty years. We know there is something here for every
couple. The challenge is to take action.
This is a
practical hands-on guide: no theories, hypotheses,
anthropological studies or educational treatises. No bull. Just
a simple system that worked for us.
We truly
believe that any couple can duplicate our success. These
strategies are not complex. They are easy to understand and
straightforward to implement. Employ them daily for the rest of
your lives and they will work for you too.

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