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What is a Marriage PactTM?
A Marriage PactTM is the unique
groundrules you and your partner establish for your relationship. No two
Pacts are the same. It covers how you as a couple would like things to
go from the mundane to the very serious and is a moral document not a
legal one.
To make it meaningful, it is first necessary that each of you know what
you want individually from your marriage. What would make YOU happy?
Once you have your expectations in writing, the next step is to compare
them. Where you are in agreement, enter that in your Pact. Where you
differ, it is necessary to discuss the topic until you have a resolution
you can both live with. These should not be like New Year's resolutions
that go by the wayside as soon as they are inconvenient.
Think of these agreements as lifetime promises, extensions of your
wedding vows. Living by them as your life together unfolds will make all
the difference in the world in the satisfaction, joy and togetherness
you enjoy in your marriage.








"The Objective of Serious Dating
Is To Really Get to Know Each Other.
Unfortunately, That Seldom Happens!"
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It's been estimated
3 out of 4 marriages are in trouble
the day they start!
A major factor in this startling statistic is the
disillusionment that begins when the new bride and
groom each discover the person they married isn't
quite the person they dated.
Often they find the person they thought they knew so
very well is a virtual stranger!
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From:
Charlie Michaels, co-Author of “Mastering Marriage”
Dear Potential Bride or Groom,
Let's face it,
when we start dating someone new, we all do things
to make ourselves more desirable. We dress up. We
put on our best manners. We go places and do things
we haven't done before and, in some cases, hope we
never have to do again.
Mike pretended to like broccoli, mushrooms and
escargot when these could have been featured on his
own "Fear Factor" episode. My house was spotless and
totally organized when we started dating but that
definitely was not typical. There are times when my
projects are so spread out all over the floor that
its impossible to tell if we have carpet!
We're just trying to get the other person to like us
and we feel the "real" us might not be as
attractive, so we pretend to be what we feel would
be more appealing. These little deceptions are
harmless, even fun, when we are dating just to have
a good time. This is no longer true when we enter a
stage that might lead to the serious committment of
marriage. The real problem is that it could well be
some of the very things we do that are out of
character for us that makes our partner say "this is
the one for me":
She's perfect. She loves to
watch sports and action movies.
He's perfect. He actually likes
spending time with my family and doesn't mind
shopping.
This can be a hugh problem. In
this stage of our relationship, we are evaluating
each other to decide if this is the person with whom
we would like to share the rest of our life. How can
we do this if the person is not being himself or
herself? We can't and so for many the true
evaluation doesn't begin until after the wedding and
for many the "real" person is not at all what they
expected or wanted.
In our book, Mastering Marriage, we call
dropping the masks you wore while you dated,
"Trading Faces." If you are entering this phase of
your relationship, the time to start being yourself
is now. If you persist in these "deceptions" until
you are married then we believe you should be
prepared and willing to do them the rest of your
life. Either be yourself so your potential spouse
can fairly evaluate you or become that person your
spouse fell in love with. If you don't feel you can
do this or even if you just don't want to, then stop
the charade and be yourself and ask your partner to
do the same. Really get to know each other. It's
important.
Another problem is that each of us has developed our
own idea of the perfect marriage and how the perfect
husband and perfect wife should behave. The problem
is that our concept may have nothing to do with our
partner's ideal.
If you're thinking about giving the key to your
heart, take time to share the key to your happiness
as well! We'll show you how, step-by-step and it
will make all the difference in the world in how
smoothly your transition to husband and wife will
go. For some, the "adjustment period" is so
difficult, they never fully recover from it to
realize their full potential. Others don't survive
it, ending their marriage before it really began.
Join the fabulous exceptions that grow happier and
more in love each year. You and your future spouse
are happy and in love. You want to be together as
much as possible. Wouldn’t it be glorious to wake up
every morning for the rest of your lives and feel as
lucky to be with each other as you do right now?
Isn’t this what all couples dream of?
Sadly most marriages don’t live up to the dream.
Over half end in divorce and 4 out of 10 of the
couples that stay together are not happily married.
I cite these statistics not to scare you but to
prompt you to action. Those results are
heartbreaking but absolutely unnecessary.
Assuring success is easier before unexpected issues
and misunderstandings occur which happens to every
married couple. Some small, some large. Some sooner,
some later. Some silly, some serious. Most can be
avoided altogether by doing the right things before
you wed.
Couples spend a great deal of time preparing for
their wedding, reception, and honeymoon, but the
question that will determine whether your marriage
will be everything you hope for is:
How effectively have
you prepared for your
day-to-day married life after the honeymoon?
Just as you must
prepare before the wedding to make it run smoothly,
the very best time to assure your marriage will run
smoothly is before you are married.
The problem is
people think discussing their future means talking
about where they will live and work and a few other
obvious situations.
When you combine
all this, you can see why so many people are
disillusioned soon after they marry and why most
marriages don’t last or, in time, are not
satisfying.
Please don’t
leave the success of the most
important relationship in your life to chance.
Most couples
marry believing they will calmly and rationally
address each problem and issue as it arises; that
their love is strong enough to get them through
anything. Big mistake.
Understand that all the people
who divorce were happy and in love on their wedding
days also and felt that same way. They were sure
they would be joyful exceptions to the statistics.
Just as sad are
the couples that stay unhappily married
sharing an address not a life. A disheartening state
of affairs indeed. They too started out with this
same mistaken belief.
Most of the
disappointments we suffer in our lives are not
because the actual situation is so terrible but stem
from the disillusionment that sets in when the
reality differs from our
expectations. This is true in marriage also.
Almost all of us
have unrealistic impressions of marriage that
developed over our lifetimes based on movies, TV,
magazines and newspapers. In addition, not many
people have given any real thought to what they
personally expect and want from married life. They
just get married.
A major cause of
early differences that can grow into marriage-ending
problems is that people did not merge what they
each wanted from marriage into a shared dream and
define how they would achieve it.
This isn’t because they didn’t care, surely they
did, or because they were too busy.
The real reason is they simply didn’t know what to
do.
Their plan for their future
together was that they had no plan.
Be aware that
living together doesn't really prepare you
for marriage. The failure rate of those who lived
together before marrying is higher than for those
who don’t!
Even if you have
had pre-marriage counseling, it is unlikely you will
be aware of the day-to-day strategies we share.
My husband and I
wrote Mastering Marriage for every couple who wants
to grow happier and more in love each year. It
details every idea we have used for 25 years to have
a marriage that exceeds our wildest expectations and
our expectations were lofty!
Without Proper
Preparation, Most Marriages Will Fail.
Most Marriages Fail.
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There is no
better time to read about and implement our
suggestions than before your wedding. It is much
easier to get off on the right foot than to make
adjustments after some conflict arises or after you
have broken a rule you didn’t even know existed!
A little effort
now can avoid situations that develop into problems
that diminish or destroy marriages. This is better
than putting a lot of effort later into attempting
to smooth over a dispute after one of you is “right”
and the other “wrong”.
You can
be one of the happy exceptions and enjoy a strong,
fulfilling marriage instead of ending up in a blah,
unsatisfying marriage or divorce.
I know you’re
busy but with a minimum of effort today, your
marriage will be everything you hope for. There are
pitfalls you can avoid and things you can do before
you marry that will virtually assure your success.
A sampling of
secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering Marriage:
- Step-by-step how to prepare
your Emotional PrenuptialTM,
the most important document next to your
marriage license and the key to your future
happiness.
- The most effective
communication technique ever and the key to
making each other happy every day, in good times
and bad.
- What each of you are doing
daily that can cause disappointment almost
immediately after you marry and what you can do,
starting today, to prevent it.
- Strengthen your
commitment to each other every day with three
words more powerful than "I love you" and end
any disagreement....almost before it begins.
- Mom's "magic words" are
still magic in marriage.
- Your road to happiness
will be smoother once you see through the
“Mirage of Marriage” and avoid putting
unrealistic demands on each other.
- Bend the Golden Rule so
your spouse will always be happy to be married
to you.
- The most important
decisions you will make about sex and money,
resolving two of the biggest areas of conflict
in marriage.
- Why you shouldn’t treat
each other like Mr. Potato Head®.
- Discover that the harder
you work to be the perfect spouse the more you
can irritate your partner. Ouch!
- It's easy, fun and so
wonderful to be one of the fabulous exceptions
that grows more in love and happier to be
married every year.
Share with each other the best wedding gift ever.
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You will never
get a second chance to
start your marriage off right.
Mike and I are
ordinary people with an extraordinary gift to share
with you: the clues to growing happier and more in
love throughout your marriage.
Believe me, we
didn’t start out as likely candidates to be writing
a book on this topic. My dating history ran from
comical to sad to pathetic. At my high school
graduation dinner, my classmates named me “the
person most likely to have her love life made into a
soap opera.” And that was before things got bad!
Ultimately, I was
angry, hurt and both hated men and needed their
approval. I lacked positive role models and had no
apparent relationship skills. I am bossy, demanding,
strong willed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and
a perfectionist. I also have many positive traits,
I’m sure.
Mike went to an
all boys’ high school and admits to being backwards
and awkward with women. He has an explosive temper,
is bossy, argumentative, strong willed, work
obsessed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a
perfectionist. His need to excel at work caused him
to put in long hours at the office and destroyed his
first marriage even though he admits he had a good
wife.
Back then, we
were emotionally challenged. Mike’s
divorce devastated him and I, though never married,
had perfected the art of selecting unsuitable
partners.
Because we lucky
enough to listen to and implement advice given to us
before we were married by a couple that had been
happily married for 50 years at the time, we have
been happier than we thought possible and, based on
our personality traits, this is no small feat. They
were a minor challenge, however, compared to the
situations we have persevered through over the
years.
A failed business, near bankruptcy, living out of
our car for a year, a twelve year remodeling
project, my eight year bout with clinical depression
and giving my mother hospice care for the last six
months of her life are the short list.
Despite facing these and other obstacles that could
have destroyed a weaker marriage, we have never felt
the slightest threat to our relationship.
We will help
you make your marriage just as impervious to
whatever life throws at you and you will enjoy doing
it!
Everyone starts
out expecting a wonderful marriage but few know
exactly how to accomplish that elusive goal. I
believe that if you want to know how be happily
married listen to a couple that’s been happily
married for many years which is what we did.
Based on statistics, most of you
aren’t going to know many people that fit that
description. Even if you do, how many do you feel
comfortable asking details of how they handle sex,
money and other issues in their relationship? What
to do.
It’s Simple.
You want to be happily married.
We show couples how to be happily married.
Our suggestions
will make your life together better; the more of
them you incorporate into your daily life, the
happier you will be. If you follow them all you will
be happier than you can imagine.
Take heart, years
ago we didn't have a clue how to prepare for
marriage either.
We are committed to help others just as we were
helped many years ago by sharing advice literally
forced upon me by Mr. Ken Burley, a business
consultant to my company. He told me he could tell
that I had met the man I was going to marry and he
wanted to give me some advice.
I barely knew him but I listened because I wanted to
talk about my spouse after 50 years of marriage with
the love in Ken's voice. We are forever in his debt.
Based on all we’ve faced over the years, his simple
suggestion is the cornerstone that has made all the
difference between success and failure for us.
Once we
understood you could take charge of your
future, we built on that foundation and
developed the other strategies we share in our book.
We have lived
happier than we thought possible without
resentments, disputes or even serious arguments. I
say serious because, not wanting to burst any
bubbles, we still have disagreements and
occasionally “Mellow” Mike will lose his temper.
We have overcome numerous marriage threatening
challenges together without any threat to our
relationship. You can too by learning habits that
will keep you happily married and sustain a lifelong
love affair.
Begin building your future, today.
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I hope I have
convinced you that you can benefit from the
experience of others just as we did many years ago,
even if you don’t think you need it. Most people
feel they will be the happy exceptions. Millions
make that mistake every year. Whether it is our
advice or that of someone else who has a great
marriage, please don’t let your marriage just
"evolve." The odds are heavily against success.
Even if you’re
one of the fortunate few to be raised in a home
where your parents openly loved each other and had a
marriage to emulate, I'll bet that you have no idea
how they accomplished it. You saw the façade not the
foundation. Even if they are willing, they probably
will not be able to tell you exactly how they have
done it. More than likely they belong to that very
small and very lucky group that somehow survives the
“trial and error method of marriage.” Not a
good approach.
We have been
happily married for 25 years. Mike did it wrong and
now he’s done it right. Our success is not luck. It
is the direct result of the strategies we learned,
developed and implemented throughout our marriage
and share in our book.
We offer the
perspective of both wife and husband but we don’t
have you create our idea of a great marriage. We
help you realize the unique marriage dreams the two
of you envision and give you strategies that will
accomplish your goals not
ours.
A few hours to
learn simple techniques you can start applying
before the wedding and in those first few months of
marriage, will assure that you will thrive not just
survive, that each of you will get what you hope for
from your relationship, that you will be happily
married and that your love and respect for
each other will grow stronger no matter
what life throws at you.
You have
nothing to lose and a lifetime of happiness to gain.
Great Marriages
Don’t Just Happen. Make Yours One Of Them. |
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So……
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Marriage.
Implement the strategies every day.
Share your book with other couples
you care about.
Tell others about your success.
Come back and let us know about
your experience.
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for your marriage is a piece of cake!
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"You've Shared The
Key To Your Heart. Now, Share The Key To Your
Happiness!"It's been estimated 3 out of
4 marriages are in trouble the day they
start!
Great marriages don't just happen. Sadly, they
don't happen very often, period.
It's hard not to get so
caught up in the fairy tale atmosphere of the wedding that preparing
for the realities of day-to-day married life is
overlooked.
Unfortunately, this oversight leads to the
infamous "Adjustment Period" which, as a minimum, causes discomfort
and, when as severe as it often is, results in a disconnect many
marriages don't survive.
You've given each other the key to
your heart. Take time before your wedding to share the key to your
happiness! We'll show you how, step-by-step and it will make all the
difference in the world in how smoothly your transition to husband
and wife goes.
Join the fabulous exceptions that grow
happier and more in love each year.
From: Charlie Michaels,
co-Author of “Mastering Marriage”
Dear Bride
or Groom-To-Be,
You and your future spouse are happy
and in love. You want to be together as much as possible. Wouldn’t
it be glorious to wake up every morning for the rest of your lives
and feel as lucky to be with each other as you do right now?
Isn’t this what all couples dream
of?
Sadly most marriages don’t live up to
the dream. Over half end
in divorce and 4 out of
10 of the couples that stay together are not happily
married. I cite these statistics not to scare you but to prompt you
to action. Those results are heartbreaking but absolutely
unnecessary.
Assuring success is easier before
unexpected issues and misunderstandings occur which happens to every
married couple. Some small, some large. Some sooner, some later.
Some silly, some serious. Most can be avoided altogether by doing
the right things before your wedding.
Couples spend a great deal of time
preparing for their wedding, reception, and honeymoon, but the
question that will determine whether your marriage will be
everything you hope for is:
How effectively have
you prepared for your day-to-day married life after the
honeymoon?
Just as you must prepare before the
wedding to make it run smoothly, the very best time to assure your
marriage will run smoothly is before you are married.
The problem is people think
discussing their future means talking about where they will live and
work and a few other obvious situations.
When you combine all this, you can
see why so many people are disillusioned soon after they marry and
why most marriages don’t last or, in time, are not satisfying.
Please don’t leave the success of
the most important relationship in your life to
chance.
Most couples marry believing they
will calmly and rationally address each problem and issue as it
arises; that their love is strong enough to get them through
anything. Big mistake.
Understand that all the people who divorce were
happy and in love on their wedding days also and felt that same way.
They were sure they would be joyful exceptions to the statistics.
Just as sad are the couples that stay
unhappily married sharing an address not a life. A
disheartening state of affairs indeed. They too started out with
this same mistaken belief.
Most of the disappointments we suffer
in our lives are not because the actual situation is so terrible but
stem from the disillusionment that sets in when the reality
differs from our expectations. This is true in
marriage also.
Almost all of us have unrealistic
impressions of marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on
movies, TV, magazines and newspapers. In addition, not many people
have given any real thought to what they personally expect and want
from married life. They just get married.
A major cause of early differences
that can grow into marriage-ending problems is that people did not
merge what they each wanted from marriage into a shared dream and
define how they would achieve it.
This isn’t because they
didn’t care, surely they did, or because they were too busy.
The real reason is they
simply didn’t know what to do.
Their plan for their future together was that they
had no plan.
Be aware that living together doesn't
really prepare you for marriage. The failure rate of those
who lived together before marrying is higher than for those who
don’t!
Even if you have had pre-marriage
counseling, it is unlikely you will be aware of the day-to-day
strategies we share.
My husband and I wrote Mastering
Marriage for every couple who wants to grow happier and more in love
each year. It details every idea we have used for 25 years to have a
marriage that exceeds our wildest expectations and our expectations
were lofty!
Without Proper Preparation, Most
Marriages Will Fail. Most Marriages
Fail.
There is no better time to read about
and implement our suggestions than before your wedding. It is much
easier to get off on the right foot than to make adjustments after
some conflict arises or after you have broken a rule you didn’t even
know existed!
A little effort now can avoid
situations that develop into problems that diminish or destroy
marriages. This is better than putting a lot of effort later into
attempting to smooth over a dispute after one of you is “right” and
the other “wrong”.
You can be one of the happy
exceptions and enjoy a strong, fulfilling marriage instead of ending
up in a blah, unsatisfying marriage or divorce.
I know you’re busy but with a minimum
of effort today, your marriage will be everything you hope for.
There are pitfalls you can avoid and things you can do before you
marry that will virtually assure your success.
A sampling of
secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering
Marriage:
- Step-by-step how to prepare your Emotional
PrenuptialTM, the most important
document next to your marriage license and the key to your
future happiness.
- The most effective communication technique ever
and the key to making each other happy every day, in good times
and bad.
- What each of you are doing daily that can cause
disappointment almost immediately after you marry and what you can
do, starting today, to prevent it.
- Strengthen your commitment to each other
every day with three words more powerful than "I love you" and end
any disagreement....almost before it begins.
- Mom's "magic words" are still magic in
marriage.
- Your road to happiness will be smoother once
you see through the “Mirage of Marriage” and avoid putting
unrealistic demands on each other.
- Bend the Golden Rule so your spouse will always
be happy to be married to you.
- The most important decisions you will make
about sex and money, resolving two of the biggest areas of
conflict in marriage.
- Why you shouldn’t treat each other like Mr.
Potato Head®.
- Discover that the harder you work to be the
perfect spouse the more you can irritate your partner.
Ouch!
- It's easy, fun and so wonderful to be one of
the fabulous exceptions that grows more in love and happier to be
married every year.
Share with each other
the best wedding gift ever. The secrets to to a GREAT marriage.
You will never get a second chance
to start your marriage off right.
Mike and I are ordinary people with
an extraordinary gift to share with you: the clues to growing
happier and more in love throughout your marriage.
Believe me, we didn’t start out as
likely candidates to be writing a book on this topic. My dating
history ran from comical to sad to pathetic. At my high school
graduation dinner, my classmates named me “the person most likely to
have her love life made into a soap opera.” And that was before
things got bad!
Ultimately, I was angry, hurt and
both hated men and needed their approval. I lacked positive role
models and had no apparent relationship skills. I am bossy,
demanding, strong willed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a
perfectionist. I also have many positive traits, I’m sure.
Mike went to an all boys’ high school
and admits to being backwards and awkward with women. He has an
explosive temper, is bossy, argumentative, strong willed, work
obsessed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist. His
need to excel at work caused him to put in long hours at the office
and destroyed his first marriage even though he admits he had a good
wife.
Back then, we were
emotionally challenged. Mike’s divorce devastated
him and I, though never married, had perfected the art of selecting
unsuitable partners.
Because we lucky enough to listen to
and implement advice given to us before we were married by a couple
that had been happily married for 50 years at the time, we have been
happier than we thought possible and, based on our personality
traits, this is no small feat. They were a minor challenge, however,
compared to the situations we have persevered through over the
years.
A failed business, near bankruptcy, living out of our
car for a year, a twelve year remodeling project, my eight year bout
with clinical depression and giving my mother hospice care for the
last six months of her life are the short list.
Despite
facing these and other obstacles that could have destroyed a weaker
marriage, we have never felt the slightest threat to our
relationship.
We will help you make your
marriage just as impervious to whatever life throws at you and you
will enjoy doing it!
Everyone starts out expecting a
wonderful marriage but few know exactly how to accomplish that
elusive goal. I believe that if you want to know how be happily
married listen to a couple that’s been happily married for many
years which is what we did.
Based on statistics, most of you aren’t going to
know many people that fit that description. Even if you do, how many
do you feel comfortable asking details of how they handle sex, money
and other issues in their relationship? What to do.
It’s Simple. You
want to be happily married. We show couples how to be happily
married.
Our suggestions will make your life
together better; the more of them you incorporate into your daily
life, the happier you will be. If you follow them all you will be
happier than you can imagine.
Take heart, years ago we didn't have
a clue how to prepare for marriage either.
We are committed
to help others just as we were helped many years ago by sharing
advice literally forced upon me by Mr. Ken Burley, a business
consultant to my company. He told me he could tell that I had met
the man I was going to marry and he wanted to give me some
advice.
I barely knew him but I listened because I wanted to
talk about my spouse after 50 years of marriage with the love in
Ken's voice. We are forever in his debt. Based on all we’ve faced
over the years, his simple suggestion is the cornerstone that has
made all the difference between success and failure for us.
Once we understood you could
take charge of your future, we built on that
foundation and developed the other strategies we share in our book.
We have lived happier than we thought
possible without resentments, disputes or even serious arguments. I
say serious because, not wanting to burst any bubbles, we still have
disagreements and occasionally “Mellow” Mike will lose his
temper.
We have overcome numerous marriage threatening
challenges together without any threat to our relationship. You can
too by learning habits that will keep you happily married and
sustain a lifelong love affair.
Begin building your
future, today.
I hope I have convinced you that you
can benefit from the experience of others just as we did many years
ago, even if you don’t think you need it. Most people feel they will
be the happy exceptions. Millions make that mistake every year.
Whether it is our advice or that of someone else who has a great
marriage, please don’t let your marriage just "evolve." The odds are
heavily against success.
Even if you’re one of the fortunate
few to be raised in a home where your parents openly loved each
other and had a marriage to emulate, I'll bet that you have no idea
how they accomplished it. You saw the façade not the foundation.
Even if they are willing, they probably will not be able to tell you
exactly how they have done it. More than likely they belong to that
very small and very lucky group that somehow survives the “trial and
error method of marriage.”
Not a good approach.
We have been happily married for 25
years. Mike did it wrong and now he’s done it right. Our success is
not luck. It is the direct result of the strategies we learned,
developed and implemented throughout our marriage and share in our
book.
We offer the perspective of both wife
and husband but we don’t have you create our idea of a great
marriage. We help you realize the unique marriage dreams the two of
you envision and give you strategies that will accomplish
your goals not ours.
A few hours to learn simple
techniques you can start applying before the wedding and in those
first few months of marriage, will assure that you will thrive not
just survive, that each of you will get what you hope for from your
relationship, that you will be happily married and that your
love and respect for each other will grow stronger no
matter what life throws at you.
You have nothing to lose and
a lifetime of happiness to gain.
Great Marriages Don’t Just Happen.
Make Yours One Of Them.

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Stronger No Matter What Life Throws At
You?"
If you haven't yet, you soon will experience a
situation where, much to your surprise, you and your spouse aren't
on the same page and a "discussion" ensues. It happens to virtually
everyone.
Welcome to "The Trial And Error Method Of
Marriage" that leads 50% of couples to divorce and,
just as sad, leaves 40%
of the rest saying they're not happily
married!
If you want to make each other happy, share with
each other what will make you happy! Create your unique Marriage
PactTM today.
That one
simple step is the foundation for the success of your
marriage.
From: Charlie Michaels,
co-Author of “Mastering Marriage”
Dear
Newlywed,
Mike and I are ordinary people with
an extraordinary gift to share with you: the clues to growing
happier and more in love throughout your marriage.
You and your spouse are happy and in
love. Wouldn’t it be glorious to wake up every morning for the rest
of your life and feel as lucky to be with your partner as you do
right now?
Since this is what all
couples dream of, why do so few achieve it?
Can you imagine the outcome of your
wedding and reception if your big day had “evolved” without any
preparation? Even if chaos had not prevailed, the likelihood that
your wedding would have been remotely as you’d dreamed is nil.
You prepared for your wonderful
day, now prepare for your wonderful life!
Assuring success is easiest before
unexpected issues and misunderstandings occur which happens to every
married couple. Some small, some large. Some sooner, some later.
Some silly, some serious.
You are probably experiencing that
early “Adjustment Period” virtually every couple suffers through.
Unfortunately, many don’t make it but you can minimize your
discomfort by doing certain things as soon as possible.
Without Proper Preparation, Most
Marriages Will Fail. Most Marriages Fail.
The problem is people don’t even know
you can lay an impenetrable foundation for a marriage, let alone
how. When we ask if they prepared for marriage like they did for
their wedding, most couples ask us “What do you mean?”
It is easy to understand why so many
people are disillusioned soon after they marry and why most
marriages don’t last or in time are not satisfying.
Most people believe their marriage
will survive by addressing each problem and issue as it arises, that
their love is strong enough to get them through anything. Big
mistake.
All the couples who get divorced were
happy and in love on their wedding day and felt they would be joyful
exceptions to the statistics.
Just as sad those unhappy
couples that remain married but share only an address not a life. An
utterly disheartening state of affairs indeed. They too started out
with this same mistaken belief.
Don’t think that if you lived
together before you married you are immune. The failure rate of
those who did is even higher than for those who didn’t.
The honeymoon doesn’t
have to end....ever!
Most of the disappointments we suffer
in our lives are not because the actual situation is so terrible but
instead stem from the disillusionment that sets in when the reality
differs from our expectations. This is true in
marriage also.
Almost all of us had unrealistic
impressions of marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on
movies, TV, magazines and newspapers. In addition, most people
haven’t given any real thought to what they personally expect and
want from married life. They just get married.
We believe the major cause of the
early differences that can grow into marriage-ending problems is
that few people take the time to merge what they each wanted from
marriage into a common goal and define how they would achieve
it.
This isn’t because they didn’t care, because surely
they did, or because they were so busy, which they probably
were.
The truth is they
simply didn’t know what to do.
Their plan for their future together
was that they had no plan. Take heart, years ago we too had no clue
how to plan for marriage.
Even if you had pre-marriage
counseling by the clergy or a marriage professional, they will not
have covered the day to day strategies we share.
My husband and I wrote Mastering
Marriage for every couple who wants to grow happier and more in
love each year. It details every idea we have used for 25 years to
have a marriage that exceeds our wildest expectations and our
expectations were lofty!
The sooner you read about and
implement our suggestions the better. It’s much easier to avoid a
disagreement than to make adjustments after some conflict arises or
after you have somehow broken a rule you didn’t even know
existed!
A little effort now can avoid
situations that develop into problems that diminish or destroy
marriages. This is better than putting a lot of effort later into
attempting to smooth over a dispute after one of you is “right” and
the other “wrong”.
The result is a marriage that gets
better every year instead of a blah marriage or divorce.
In just a few
hours you can assure the success of your
marriage.
With a minimum of effort today, your
marriage will be everything you hope for. There are pitfalls you can
avoid and things you can do that will assure success.
A
sampling of the secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering
Marriage:
- Strengthen your commitment to
each other every day with three words more powerful than "I love
you" and end any disagreement....almost before it
begins.
- Step-by-step how to prepare your Marriage
Pact TM, the most important
document next to your license and the foundation for your
future happiness.
- The most effective communication technique ever
and the key to making each other happy every day, in good times
and bad.
- What each of you did when you dated that causes
disappointment after you marry and what you can do to correct
it.
- Your life together will be smoother once you
see through the “Mirage of Marriage” and don't put unrealistic
demands on each other.
- Mom's "magic words" are still magic in
marriage.
- Discover that the harder you work to be the
perfect spouse the more you can irritate your partner.
Ouch!
- Why Not To Treat Each Other Like Mr. Potato
Head®.
- The most important decisions to make about
sex and money, resolving two of the biggest areas of conflict in
marriage.
- Bend the Golden Rule and your spouse will
always be happy to be married to you.
- It's easy, fun and so wonderful to be one of
the fabulous exceptions that grows more in love and happier to be
married every year.
Give each other
the gift of a GREAT marriage.
Buy “Mastering Marriage” For
$19.95. Click
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Please don’t
leave the success of the most important relationship in your
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Our suggestions will make your life
together better; the more you incorporate into your daily life, the
happier you will be. If you follow them all, you will be happier
than you can imagine.
Believe me, we didn’t start out
as likely candidates to be writing a book on this topic. My dating
history ran from comical to sad to really pathetic. At my high
school graduation dinner, my classmates named me “the person most
likely to have her love life made into a soap opera.” And that was
before things got bad!
Ultimately, I was angry, hurt and
both hated men and needed their approval. I lacked positive role
models and had no apparent relationship skills. I am bossy,
demanding, strong willed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a
perfectionist. I also have many positive traits, I’m sure.
Mike went to an all boys’ high school
and admits to being backwards and awkward with women. He has an
explosive temper, is bossy, argumentative, strong willed, work
obsessed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist His
need to excel at work caused him to put in long hours and destroyed
his first marriage even though he admits he had a good wife.
Back then, we were “emotionally
challenged”. Mike’s divorce devastated him and I, though never
married, had perfected the art of selecting unsuitable partners.
Because we listened to and
implemented advice given to us by a couple who had been happily
married for 50 years at the time, we have been happier than we
thought possible for 25 years and, based on our personality traits,
this is no small feat. They were a minor challenge, however,
compared to the situations we have persevered through together over
the years.
A failed business, near bankruptcy,
living out of our car for a year, a twelve year remodeling project,
my eight year bout with clinical depression and giving my mother
hospice care for the last six months of her life are the short
list.
Despite facing these and other
obstacles that could have destroyed a weaker marriage, we never felt
the slightest threat to our relationship.
We will help you make your
marriage just as impervious to whatever life throws at you and you
will have fun doing it!
Everyone starts out expecting a
wonderful marriage but few know exactly how to accomplish that
elusive goal. I believe that if you want to know how be happily
married, listen to a couple that’s been happily married for many
years.
Based on statistics, most of you
aren’t going to know many people that fit that description. Even if
you do, how many do you feel comfortable asking details of how they
handle sex, money and other issues in their relationship? What to
do.
It’s Simple. You
want to remain happily married for life. We help couples stay
happily married for life.
We are committed to help others just
as we were helped many years ago by Mr. Ken Burley, a business
consultant to my company. He told me he could tell that I had met
the man I was going to marry and he wanted to give me some
advice.
I listened because I wanted to talk about my spouse
other after 50 years of marriage with the love in Ken's voice. We’ve
faced much over the years and his simple suggestion is the
cornerstone that made the difference between success and failure for
us. We are forever in his debt.
Once we understood that you could
take charge of your future, we built on that foundation and
developed the other strategies we share in our book.
We have lived happier than we thought
possible without resentments, disputes or even serious arguments. I
say serious because, not wanting to burst any bubbles, we still have
disagreements and occasionally “Mellow” Mike will lose his
temper.
We have overcome numerous challenges together without
any threat to our relationship. You can too by learning habits that
will keep you happily married and sustain a lifelong love
affair.
Tomorrow’s success
depends on what you do today.
I hope I have convinced you that you
can benefit from the experience of others just as we did many years
ago, even if you don’t think you need it. Whether it is our advice
or that of someone else that has a great marriage, please don’t let
your marriage “evolve” haphazardly. Millions try that and fail every
year. The odds are heavily against success.
Even if you’re one of the fortunate
few to be raised in a home where your parents openly loved each
other and had a marriage to emulate, it is a safe bet that you have
no idea how they accomplished it. You saw the façade not the
foundation. In addition, odds are even they will not be able to tell
you exactly how they have done it. More than likely they belong to
that very small and very lucky group that somehow survives the
“trial and error method of marriage.” Not a good
approach.
We have been happily married for 25
years. Mike did it wrong and now he’s done it right. Our success is
not luck. It is the direct result of the strategies we learned,
developed and implemented throughout our marriage and share in our
book.
We offer the perspective of both wife
and husband but we don’t have you create our idea of a great
marriage. We help you realize the unique marriage dreams you
envision and give you strategies that will accomplish
your goals not ours.
In a few hours you can learn simple
techniques you can apply immediately and that will assure you will
thrive not just survive, that each of you will get what you want
from your relationship and, more importantly, that your love
and respect for each other will grow stronger no matter
what life throws at you.
You have nothing to lose and
a lifetime of happiness to gain.
Great Marriages Don’t Just
Happen. It's Time To Move From "I Do" To "We Do"!

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Remember How
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"It Can Be
Even Better!"
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You no longer naively believe everything will just
naturally be perfect. You're not always on the same page.
"Miscommunications" have happened. Some pretty funny, others not
quite so funny. It happens to virtually everyone.
Most
couples simply follow this "Trial And Error Method Of Marriage"
until they divorce or are unhappy in their marriage. How sad and
totally unnecessary.
The first step towards living your
dream marriage is to have a shared dream.
Even if your
marriage isn't everything you hoped for, you can reignite your love
affair and have it last for life by developing shared goals and
giving each other the key to your happiness. Marriages don't remain
static. Either they are growing stronger or they are fading a little
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From: Charlie Michaels,
co-Author of “Mastering Marriage”
Dear
Marriage Partner,
Mike and I are ordinary people with
an extraordinary gift to share with you: the clues to growing
happier and more in love throughout your marriage.
Think back to your wedding and how
happy and in love you were. Wouldn’t it be glorious to wake up every
morning for the rest of your life and feel as lucky to be with your
partner as you did that day?
Since this is what all
couples dream of, why do so few achieve it?
Most people spend a great deal of
time preparing for their wedding and reception but simply allow
their marriage to “evolve” haphazardly through time.
You prepared for your wonderful
day, now prepare for your wonderful life!
Imagine the outcome of your big day
if it had “evolved” without any preparation. Even if chaos had not
prevailed, it’s virtually impossible that it would have been
remotely as you’d dreamed. It was true of the wedding and it is true
of the marriage.
The problem is people don’t even know
you can lay an impenetrable foundation for a marriage, let alone
how. When we ask if they have planned for their marriage like they
did for their wedding most couples ask us “What do you
mean?”
It is easy to understand why so many
people are disillusioned after they marry and why most marriages
don’t last. In our minds, even worse than divorce are couples that
merely exist together in a lifeless, blah marriage. A disheartening
state of affairs indeed.
Without Proper Preparation, Most
Marriages Will Fail. Most Marriages Fail.
Most of the disappointments we suffer
in our lives are not because the actual situation is so terrible but
instead stem from the disillusionment that sets in when the reality
differs from our expectations. This is true in
marriage also.
Almost all of us had unrealistic
impressions of marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on
movies, TV, magazines and newspapers. In addition, most people
hadn’t given any real thought as to what they personally expected
and wanted from married life. They just got married.
One of the major causes of the
differences that can grow into marriage-ending problems is that
people did not take the time to merge what they each wanted from
marriage into a common goal and define how they would achieve
it. This isn’t because they didn’t care, surely they did, or
because they were busy, which they probably were.
The truth is they simply
didn’t know what to do.
Their plan for their future together
was that they had no plan. Take heart, years ago we too had no clue
how to plan for marriage.
My husband and I wrote Mastering
Marriage for every couple who wants to grow happier and more in love
each year. It details every idea we have used for 25 years to have a
marriage that exceeds our wildest expectations and our expectations
were lofty.
The sooner you read about and
implement our suggestions the better. You’ve undoubtedly had
disagreements already that occurred because you somehow broke a rule
you didn’t even know existed!
We can’t change the past but we can
dramatically improve the future of your relationship. A little
effort today can avoid the situations that diminish marriages.
Create The
Marriage You Want Right In The Middle Of The Marriage You
Have
With a minimum of effort today, your
marriage will be everything you hope for. There are pitfalls you can
avoid and things you can do that will assure success.
A sampling of
secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering
Marriage:
- Your life together will run smoother after
you see through the “Mirage of Marriage” and stop putting
unrealistic demands on each other.
- Step-by-step how to prepare your Marriage
PactTM, the most important
document next to your license and the key to your future
happiness.
- The most effective communication technique
ever and the key to making each other happy every day, in good
times and bad.
- What each of you did way back when you dated
that undoubtedly has caused disappointment and what to do to
correct it.
- Strengthen your commitment to each other
every day with three words more powerful than "I love you" and end
any disagreement....almost before it begins!
- Mom's "magic words" are still magic in
marriage.
- Discover that the harder you work to be the
perfect spouse the more you can irritate your partner.
Ouch!
- Why not to treat each other like Mr. Potato
Head®.
- The most important decisions to make about
sex and money, resolving two of the biggest areas of conflict in
marriage. It’s not too late!
- Bend the Golden Rule and your spouse will be so
happy to be married to you.
- It's easy, fun and so wonderful to be one of
the fabulous exceptions that grows more in love and happier to be
married every year.
Great Marriages Don’t Just
Happen Take Charge Of Yours Today |
Buy “Mastering Marriage” For
$19.95. Click
Here To Order Our Beautiful Hardcover Version OR If You Are Impatient And
Can't Wait To Get Started, Click
Here To Download and Print Your Copy Immediately OR View Our Companion
Products And Special Package Deal
Buy
With Confidence All Products Sold On This Site Come With
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Believe me, we didn’t start out as
likely candidates to be writing a book on this topic. My dating
history ran from comical to sad to really pathetic. At my high
school graduation dinner, my classmates named me “the person most
likely to have her love life made into a soap opera.” And that was
before things got bad!
Ultimately, I was angry, hurt and
both hated men and needed their approval. I lacked positive role
models and had no apparent relationship skills. I am bossy,
demanding, strong willed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a
perfectionist. I also have many positive traits, I’m sure.
Mike went to an all boys’ high school
and admits to being backwards and awkward with women. He has an
explosive temper, is bossy, argumentative, strong willed, work
obsessed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist. His
need to excel at work caused him to put in long hours and destroyed
his first marriage even though he admits he had a good wife.
Back then, we were
emotionally challenged. Mike’s divorce devastated
him and I, though never married, had perfected the art of selecting
unsuitable partners.
Because we were lucky enough to
listen to and implement advice we were given by a couple who had
been married 50 years at the time, we have been happier than we
thought possible for 25 years and, based on our personality traits,
this is no small feat. They were a minor challenge, however,
compared to the situations we have persevered through together over
the years.
A failed business, near bankruptcy,
living out of our car for a year, a twelve year remodeling project,
my eight year bout with clinical depression and giving my mother
hospice care for the last six months of her life are the short
list.
Despite facing these and other
obstacles that could have destroyed a weaker marriage, we have never
felt a threat to our relationship and we will help you make your
marriage just as impervious to whatever life throws at you and you
will enjoy doing it!
You have nothing to lose
and a lifetime of happiness to gain. |
|
We are committed to help others
just as we were helped many years ago by sharing advice literally
forced upon me by Mr. Ken Burley, a business consultant to my
company. We listened because we wanted to talk about our spouse
after 50 years of marriage with the love in his voice.
We are
forever in his debt. We’ve faced much over the years and his simple
suggestion is the cornerstone that has made the difference between
success and failure for us.
Once we understood that you could
take charge of your future, we built on that
foundation and developed the other strategies we share in our book.
You want to be happily
married for life. We help couples be happily married for
life.
We have lived happier than we thought
possible without resentments, disputes or even serious arguments. I
say serious because, not wanting to burst any bubbles, we still have
disagreements and occasionally “Mellow” Mike will lose his
temper.
Together, we have overcome numerous challenges
without feeling any threat to our relationship. You can too by
learning habits that will keep you happy and sustain a lifelong love
affair.
Your marriage will become stronger as you incorporate
them into your daily life. The more you implement, the happier
you’ll be. Follow them all and have the marriage you want and be
happier than you can imagine!
Don’t leave the
most important relationship in your life to
chance
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I hope I have convinced you that you
can benefit from the experience of others just as we did many years
ago. Please don’t let your marriage just “evolve”. Millions try that
and fail every year.
Even if you actually know someone who
has been happily married for a long time and you would feel
comfortable asking about their relationship, chances are they will
not be able to tell you exactly how they have done it. More than
likely, they belong to that very small,and very lucky group that
somehow survives the “trial and error method of marriage.”
Not a good approach.
We have been happily married for 25
years. Mike did it wrong and now he’s done it right. Our success is
not luck. It is the direct result of the strategies we learned,
developed and implemented throughout our marriage and share in our
book.
We offer the perspective of both wife
and husband but we don’t have you create our idea of a great
marriage. We help you realize the unique marriage dreams you
envision and give you strategies that will accomplish
your goals not ours.
In a few hours you can learn simple
techniques you can apply immediately and that will assure you will
thrive not just survive, that each of you will get what you want
from your relationship and, more importantly, that your love
and respect for each other will grow stronger no matter
what life throws at you. |
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"The
Most Important Advantages To Give Your Children If You
Care About Their Future Happiness!"
From: Mike Brown, co-Author
of “Mastering Marriage”
Dear
Parent,
Could you ever have believed anyone
could capture your heart like your child has? No way! This love is
so all encompassing that we can easily become focused on providing
every "advantage."
We play classical music to them in the
womb. We worry about what pre-school they will attend, what grade
school. Will this high school get them into a good college? Do they
have the right clothing to be popular at school? Are they excelling
at this and that? Are they involved in every activity they need to
be well rounded? The list goes on and on.
I'm not saying that
none of these things are important but we need to keep in mind why
we are doing all this. What is your objective? Is it not that you
want your child to be happy?
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Life’s Greatest Gift Can Be Marriage’s Greatest
Challenge. When We Have A Child, It Is The First Time In our Life
That We've Given Unconditional Love. This Can Be So Emotionally
Overpowering That, With The Best Of Intentions, We Make Choices And
Do Things That Put Our Child’s Happiness And Our Marriage At
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The problem is that all of these
things take time and money on the part of parents. More money means
more effort at work which again takes more time. None of us got more
hours in a day when we had children, so all of this time has to come
out of the time we have for ourselves and, more importantly, out of
the time we have for our spouse. Our lives become child
centered.
We can become so distracted that we forget that the
role of a "successful parent" is to raise our children to be
self-sufficient adults. How do we do this?
Children learn most effectively by
doing or by example.
By Doing: To be self
sufficient, children need to learn necessary life skills by
performing them not being doted on and have everything done for
them. This is a true disservice to them and puts a bigger burden on
parents, usually mom.
In their early years, having them help
with the laundry, cooking, cleaning and other household chores will
take extra effort but the offset is that you are spending time with
your kids, teaching them skills and getting your work done all at
the same time! You don't have to rush to get "quality time" with
them. This is quality time. Get your spouse involved and it is a
true family activity.
Keep in mind, while these are chores to
you, if you start them young enough, they are not to them. The
younger you start, the less the battle because little kids always
want to do things that make them look and feel older and just about
all chores fit into that catagory when they are very young! Pay them
for their efforts and they will also learn the correlation between
work and money.
The real bonus comes later when their
abilities develop and you turn chores over to them completely and
have more time to be with alone with your spouse which brings me to
the real purpose of this letter.
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Don’t worry that your
children never listen to you; worry that they are always
watching you. Robert Fulghum,
Author
By Example: Happiness starts at home.
Good or bad, your marriage is "marriage" to your children. On a
daily basis, give them an example of a great marriage. The kind you
want for them when they grow up.
In addition to enjoying a
wonderful home life yourself, the icing on the cake comes years
later when they mature into a loving spouse and “successful parent"
which will make you prouder than you can imagine.
For this to happen, the two most important
“advantages” you can give your child are a secure, two-parent home
and an example of marriage where love and respect are the norm.
To do this, it is far better that you and your
spouse make time for each other than allow your child to become the
center of the universe. No one gets married to be number two or
three or four in their spouse’s life. This is especially true for
men who will rarely say anything until it is too
late.
Neither of you can be a good example of a loving spouse
if your child doesn’t see you being a loving spouse which means
putting your spouse ahead of your children as often as necessary to
keep the flame burning in your relationship.
This is far more important than the “advantages”
many parents strive so hard to provide for their children that they
have no time to devote to each other.
I love my kids more than I thought possible but
I’m not going to win a “Father Of The Year” award. Like too many
adults their age, my three wonderful, grown children had their world
turned upside down by divorce when they were young.
Your Great Marriage
Is The Best Gift You Can Give Your Child
I can tell you from personal experience that the
hurt we inflict on our children when our marriage fails is
devastating and does not end when they grow up.
A couple of years ago, my son was 33 and having
serious medical problems. I called to express my concern and to try
to coax him into taking better care of himself. Suddenly, he
screamed over the phone that I had no right to tell him what to do;
that I had given up that right years ago.
We had never discussed the pain the divorce caused
him but it was obvious in his voice and heartbreaking to me. He was
nine when I moved out yet his hurt was as intense as if it had been
yesterday. I’m sure his sisters have similar grief.
This anguish could have been avoided if I had kept
my priorities straight. His mother was a good wife that I neglected
because of my focus on success in the workplace. How ironic, that I
lost the very people for whom I was trying to provide a "better"
life, a bigger house, nicer things…the “advantages.” How
unimportant.
My second wife, Charlie and I are ordinary people
with an extraordinary gift to share with you: how to create a
marriage that is such a great example that your kids will want one
just like it!
Create The Marriage
You Want Right In The Middle Of The Marriage You Have
With a minimum of effort, your marriage can be
everything you hoped for. There are pitfalls you can avoid and
things you can do to assure success.
Implement our ideas and hit the trifecta! Even if
you've been married for years, if it is important to you and your
spouse, you can rekindle the flame, bask in the warmth of a lifelong
love affair and have kids that are happy now and in later life too!
A sampling of
the secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering
Marriage:
- Your life will be easier when you will see
through the “Mirage of Marriage” and stop putting unrealistic
demands on each other.
- How to prepare your Marriage PactTM, the most important document next to
your license and the key to your future happiness.
- The most effective communication technique
ever and the key to making each other happy every day, in good
times and bad.
- What each of you did way back when you dated
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married every year.
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You prepared for a wonderful
day, now prepare for a wonderful life!
Think back to your wedding day and how happy and
in love you were. Wouldn’t it be glorious to wake up every morning
for the rest of your life and feel as lucky to be with your partner
as you did back then?
Since this is what all couples
dream of, why do so few achieve it?
Most people spend a great deal of time planning
their wedding and reception but simply allow their marriage to
“evolve” haphazardly through time.
Imagine the outcome of your big day if it had just
“evolved” without any planning. Even if chaos had not prevailed,
it’s virtually impossible that it would have been remotely as you’d
dreamed. It’s true of the wedding and it’s true of the marriage.
As you may be experiencing, the biggest challenge
of all can be children. When they become the main focus, your
marriage can be at risk. Your vitality and interest in each other
can be drained by the sheer demands on your time.
Without The Proper Care, Most
Marriages Will Fail. Most Marriages Fail.
The problem is people don’t even know you can lay
an impenetrable foundation for a marriage, let alone how. When we
ask if they have planned for their marriage like they did for their
wedding, most couples ask us “What do you mean?”
It is easy to see why so many people are
disillusioned after they marry and why over 50% of marriages don’t last.
Just as shocking is that of the couples that don’t divorce, sooner
or later, 4 out of 10 are
unhappily married!
In my mind, that is even worse than divorce for
the children. Divorce causes a child pain and insecurity but a
lifeless or combative example of marriage gives them daily
reinforcement that this is what married life holds in store for
them. How unfair when marriage can be so wonderful.
Why do so many marriages go from loving to
leaving?
Most of the disappointments we suffer in our lives
are not because the actual situation is so terrible but stem from
the disillusionment that occurs when the reality differs from
our expectations. This is true in marriage also.
Almost all of us had unrealistic impressions of
marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on movies, TV,
magazines and newspapers. In addition, most people hadn’t given any
real thought as to what they personally expected and wanted from
married life. They just got married.
One of the major causes of the differences that
can grow into marriage-ending problems is that few people take the
time to merge what they each expect from marriage into a common
goal and define how they will achieve it. This isn’t because
they didn’t care, surely th | | |