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What is a Marriage PactTM?

A Marriage PactTM is the unique groundrules you and your partner establish for your relationship. No two Pacts are the same. It covers how you as a couple would like things to go from the mundane to the very serious and is a moral document not a legal one.

To make it meaningful, it is first necessary that each of you know what you want individually from your marriage. What would make YOU happy?

Once you have your expectations in writing, the next step is to compare them. Where you are in agreement, enter that in your Pact. Where you differ, it is necessary to discuss the topic until you have a resolution you can both live with. These should not be like New Year's resolutions that go by the wayside as soon as they are inconvenient.

Think of these agreements as lifetime promises, extensions of your wedding vows. Living by them as your life together unfolds will make all the difference in the world in the satisfaction, joy and togetherness you enjoy in your marriage.

















 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



"The Objective of Serious Dating
Is To Really Get to Know Each Other.
Unfortunately, That Seldom Happens!"

It's been estimated 3 out of 4 marriages are in trouble the day they start!

A major factor in this startling statistic is the disillusionment that begins when the new bride and groom each discover the person they married isn't quite the person they dated.

Often they find the person they thought they knew so very well is a virtual stranger!
 

From: Charlie Michaels, co-Author of “Mastering Marriage”

Dear Potential Bride or Groom,

Let's face it, when we start dating someone new, we all do things to make ourselves more desirable. We dress up. We put on our best manners. We go places and do things we haven't done before and, in some cases, hope we never have to do again.

Mike pretended to like broccoli, mushrooms and escargot when these could have been featured on his own "Fear Factor" episode. My house was spotless and totally organized when we started dating but that definitely was not typical. There are times when my projects are so spread out all over the floor that its impossible to tell if we have carpet!

We're just trying to get the other person to like us and we feel the "real" us might not be as attractive, so we pretend to be what we feel would be more appealing. These little deceptions are harmless, even fun, when we are dating just to have a good time. This is no longer true when we enter a stage that might lead to the serious committment of marriage. The real problem is that it could well be some of the very things we do that are out of character for us that makes our partner say "this is the one for me":

She's perfect. She loves to watch sports and action movies.

He's perfect. He actually likes spending time with my family and doesn't mind shopping.

This can be a hugh problem. In this stage of our relationship, we are evaluating each other to decide if this is the person with whom we would like to share the rest of our life. How can we do this if the person is not being himself or herself? We can't and so for many the true evaluation doesn't begin until after the wedding and for many the "real" person is not at all what they expected or wanted.

In our book, Mastering Marriage, we call dropping the masks you wore while you dated, "Trading Faces." If you are entering this phase of your relationship, the time to start being yourself is now. If you persist in these "deceptions" until you are married then we believe you should be prepared and willing to do them the rest of your life. Either be yourself so your potential spouse can fairly evaluate you or become that person your spouse fell in love with. If you don't feel you can do this or even if you just don't want to, then stop the charade and be yourself and ask your partner to do the same. Really get to know each other. It's important.

Another problem is that each of us has developed our own idea of the perfect marriage and how the perfect husband and perfect wife should behave. The problem is that our concept may have nothing to do with our partner's ideal.

If you're thinking about giving the key to your heart, take time to share the key to your happiness as well! We'll show you how, step-by-step and it will make all the difference in the world in how smoothly your transition to husband and wife will go. For some, the "adjustment period" is so difficult, they never fully recover from it to realize their full potential. Others don't survive it, ending their marriage before it really began.

Join the fabulous exceptions that grow happier and more in love each year. You and your future spouse are happy and in love. You want to be together as much as possible. Wouldn’t it be glorious to wake up every morning for the rest of your lives and feel as lucky to be with each other as you do right now?

Isn’t this what all couples dream of?

Sadly most marriages don’t live up to the dream. Over half end in divorce and 4 out of 10 of the couples that stay together are not happily married. I cite these statistics not to scare you but to prompt you to action. Those results are heartbreaking but absolutely unnecessary.

Assuring success is easier before unexpected issues and misunderstandings occur which happens to every married couple. Some small, some large. Some sooner, some later. Some silly, some serious. Most can be avoided altogether by doing the right things before you wed.

Couples spend a great deal of time preparing for their wedding, reception, and honeymoon, but the question that will determine whether your marriage will be everything you hope for is:

How effectively have you prepared for your
day-to-day married life after the honeymoon?

Just as you must prepare before the wedding to make it run smoothly, the very best time to assure your marriage will run smoothly is before you are married.

The problem is people think discussing their future means talking about where they will live and work and a few other obvious situations.

When you combine all this, you can see why so many people are disillusioned soon after they marry and why most marriages don’t last or, in time, are not satisfying.

Please don’t leave the success of the most
important relationship in your life to chance.

Most couples marry believing they will calmly and rationally address each problem and issue as it arises; that their love is strong enough to get them through anything. Big mistake.

Understand that all the people who divorce were happy and in love on their wedding days also and felt that same way. They were sure they would be joyful exceptions to the statistics.

Just as sad are the couples that stay unhappily married sharing an address not a life. A disheartening state of affairs indeed. They too started out with this same mistaken belief.

Most of the disappointments we suffer in our lives are not because the actual situation is so terrible but stem from the disillusionment that sets in when the reality differs from our expectations. This is true in marriage also.

Almost all of us have unrealistic impressions of marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on movies, TV, magazines and newspapers. In addition, not many people have given any real thought to what they personally expect and want from married life. They just get married.

A major cause of early differences that can grow into marriage-ending problems is that people did not merge what they each wanted from marriage into a shared dream and define how they would achieve it.

This isn’t because they didn’t care, surely they did, or because they were too busy.

The real reason is they simply didn’t know what to do.

Their plan for their future together was that they had no plan.

Be aware that living together doesn't really prepare you for marriage. The failure rate of those who lived together before marrying is higher than for those who don’t!

Even if you have had pre-marriage counseling, it is unlikely you will be aware of the day-to-day strategies we share.

My husband and I wrote Mastering Marriage for every couple who wants to grow happier and more in love each year. It details every idea we have used for 25 years to have a marriage that exceeds our wildest expectations and our expectations were lofty!

 

Without Proper Preparation, Most Marriages Will Fail.
Most Marriages Fail.

 

There is no better time to read about and implement our suggestions than before your wedding. It is much easier to get off on the right foot than to make adjustments after some conflict arises or after you have broken a rule you didn’t even know existed!

A little effort now can avoid situations that develop into problems that diminish or destroy marriages. This is better than putting a lot of effort later into attempting to smooth over a dispute after one of you is “right” and the other “wrong”.

You can be one of the happy exceptions and enjoy a strong, fulfilling marriage instead of ending up in a blah, unsatisfying marriage or divorce.

I know you’re busy but with a minimum of effort today, your marriage will be everything you hope for. There are pitfalls you can avoid and things you can do before you marry that will virtually assure your success.

A sampling of secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering Marriage:

  • Step-by-step how to prepare your Emotional PrenuptialTM, the most important document next to your marriage license and the key to your future happiness.

     
  • The most effective communication technique ever and the key to making each other happy every day, in good times and bad.

     
  • What each of you are doing daily that can cause disappointment almost immediately after you marry and what you can do, starting today, to prevent it.

     
  • Strengthen your commitment to each other every day with three words more powerful than "I love you" and end any disagreement....almost before it begins.

     
  • Mom's "magic words" are still magic in marriage.

     
  • Your road to happiness will be smoother once you see through the “Mirage of Marriage” and avoid putting unrealistic demands on each other.

     
  • Bend the Golden Rule so your spouse will always be happy to be married to you.

     
  • The most important decisions you will make about sex and money, resolving two of the biggest areas of conflict in marriage.

     
  • Why you shouldn’t treat each other like Mr. Potato Head®.

     
  • Discover that the harder you work to be the perfect spouse the more you can irritate your partner. Ouch!

     
  • It's easy, fun and so wonderful to be one of the fabulous exceptions that grows more in love and happier to be married every year.

Share with each other the best wedding gift ever.
The secrets to to a GREAT marriage.

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You will never get a second chance to
start your marriage off right.

Mike and I are ordinary people with an extraordinary gift to share with you: the clues to growing happier and more in love throughout your marriage.

Believe me, we didn’t start out as likely candidates to be writing a book on this topic. My dating history ran from comical to sad to pathetic. At my high school graduation dinner, my classmates named me “the person most likely to have her love life made into a soap opera.” And that was before things got bad!

Ultimately, I was angry, hurt and both hated men and needed their approval. I lacked positive role models and had no apparent relationship skills. I am bossy, demanding, strong willed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist. I also have many positive traits, I’m sure.

Mike went to an all boys’ high school and admits to being backwards and awkward with women. He has an explosive temper, is bossy, argumentative, strong willed, work obsessed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist. His need to excel at work caused him to put in long hours at the office and destroyed his first marriage even though he admits he had a good wife.

Back then, we were emotionally challenged. Mike’s divorce devastated him and I, though never married, had perfected the art of selecting unsuitable partners.

Because we lucky enough to listen to and implement advice given to us before we were married by a couple that had been happily married for 50 years at the time, we have been happier than we thought possible and, based on our personality traits, this is no small feat. They were a minor challenge, however, compared to the situations we have persevered through over the years.

A failed business, near bankruptcy, living out of our car for a year, a twelve year remodeling project, my eight year bout with clinical depression and giving my mother hospice care for the last six months of her life are the short list.

Despite facing these and other obstacles that could have destroyed a weaker marriage, we have never felt the slightest threat to our relationship.

We will help you make your marriage just as impervious to whatever life throws at you and you will enjoy doing it!

Everyone starts out expecting a wonderful marriage but few know exactly how to accomplish that elusive goal. I believe that if you want to know how be happily married listen to a couple that’s been happily married for many years which is what we did.

Based on statistics, most of you aren’t going to know many people that fit that description. Even if you do, how many do you feel comfortable asking details of how they handle sex, money and other issues in their relationship? What to do.

It’s Simple.
You want to be happily married.
We show couples how to be happily married.

Our suggestions will make your life together better; the more of them you incorporate into your daily life, the happier you will be. If you follow them all you will be happier than you can imagine.

Take heart, years ago we didn't have a clue how to prepare for marriage either.

We are committed to help others just as we were helped many years ago by sharing advice literally forced upon me by Mr. Ken Burley, a business consultant to my company. He told me he could tell that I had met the man I was going to marry and he wanted to give me some advice.

I barely knew him but I listened because I wanted to talk about my spouse after 50 years of marriage with the love in Ken's voice. We are forever in his debt. Based on all we’ve faced over the years, his simple suggestion is the cornerstone that has made all the difference between success and failure for us.

Once we understood you could take charge of your future, we built on that foundation and developed the other strategies we share in our book.

We have lived happier than we thought possible without resentments, disputes or even serious arguments. I say serious because, not wanting to burst any bubbles, we still have disagreements and occasionally “Mellow” Mike will lose his temper.

We have overcome numerous marriage threatening challenges together without any threat to our relationship. You can too by learning habits that will keep you happily married and sustain a lifelong love affair.

Begin building your future, today.


 

I hope I have convinced you that you can benefit from the experience of others just as we did many years ago, even if you don’t think you need it. Most people feel they will be the happy exceptions. Millions make that mistake every year. Whether it is our advice or that of someone else who has a great marriage, please don’t let your marriage just "evolve." The odds are heavily against success.

Even if you’re one of the fortunate few to be raised in a home where your parents openly loved each other and had a marriage to emulate, I'll bet that you have no idea how they accomplished it. You saw the façade not the foundation. Even if they are willing, they probably will not be able to tell you exactly how they have done it. More than likely they belong to that very small and very lucky group that somehow survives the “trial and error method of marriage.” Not a good approach.

We have been happily married for 25 years. Mike did it wrong and now he’s done it right. Our success is not luck. It is the direct result of the strategies we learned, developed and implemented throughout our marriage and share in our book.

We offer the perspective of both wife and husband but we don’t have you create our idea of a great marriage. We help you realize the unique marriage dreams the two of you envision and give you strategies that will accomplish your goals not ours.

A few hours to learn simple techniques you can start applying before the wedding and in those first few months of marriage, will assure that you will thrive not just survive, that each of you will get what you hope for from your relationship, that you will be happily married and that your love and respect for each other will grow stronger no matter what life throws at you.

You have nothing to lose and a lifetime of happiness to gain.

Great Marriages Don’t Just Happen. Make Yours One Of Them.



So……
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"You've Shared The Key To Your Heart.
Now, Share The Key To Your Happiness!"

It's been estimated 3 out of 4 marriages are in trouble the day they start!

Great marriages don't just happen. Sadly, they don't happen very often, period.

It's hard not to get so caught up in the fairy tale atmosphere of the wedding that preparing for the realities of day-to-day married life is overlooked.

Unfortunately, this oversight leads to the infamous "Adjustment Period" which, as a minimum, causes discomfort and, when as severe as it often is, results in a disconnect many marriages don't survive.

You've given each other the key to your heart. Take time before your wedding to share the key to your happiness! We'll show you how, step-by-step and it will make all the difference in the world in how smoothly your transition to husband and wife goes.

Join the fabulous exceptions that grow happier and more in love each year.

From: Charlie Michaels, co-Author of “Mastering Marriage”

Dear Bride or Groom-To-Be,

You and your future spouse are happy and in love. You want to be together as much as possible. Wouldn’t it be glorious to wake up every morning for the rest of your lives and feel as lucky to be with each other as you do right now?

Isn’t this what all couples dream of?

Sadly most marriages don’t live up to the dream. Over half end in divorce and 4 out of 10 of the couples that stay together are not happily married. I cite these statistics not to scare you but to prompt you to action. Those results are heartbreaking but absolutely unnecessary.

Assuring success is easier before unexpected issues and misunderstandings occur which happens to every married couple. Some small, some large. Some sooner, some later. Some silly, some serious. Most can be avoided altogether by doing the right things before your wedding.

Couples spend a great deal of time preparing for their wedding, reception, and honeymoon, but the question that will determine whether your marriage will be everything you hope for is:

How effectively have you prepared for your
day-to-day married life after the honeymoon?

Just as you must prepare before the wedding to make it run smoothly, the very best time to assure your marriage will run smoothly is before you are married.

The problem is people think discussing their future means talking about where they will live and work and a few other obvious situations.

When you combine all this, you can see why so many people are disillusioned soon after they marry and why most marriages don’t last or, in time, are not satisfying.

Please don’t leave the success of the most
important relationship in your life to chance.

Most couples marry believing they will calmly and rationally address each problem and issue as it arises; that their love is strong enough to get them through anything. Big mistake.

Understand that all the people who divorce were happy and in love on their wedding days also and felt that same way. They were sure they would be joyful exceptions to the statistics.

Just as sad are the couples that stay unhappily married sharing an address not a life. A disheartening state of affairs indeed. They too started out with this same mistaken belief.

Most of the disappointments we suffer in our lives are not because the actual situation is so terrible but stem from the disillusionment that sets in when the reality differs from our expectations. This is true in marriage also.

Almost all of us have unrealistic impressions of marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on movies, TV, magazines and newspapers. In addition, not many people have given any real thought to what they personally expect and want from married life. They just get married.

A major cause of early differences that can grow into marriage-ending problems is that people did not merge what they each wanted from marriage into a shared dream and define how they would achieve it.

This isn’t because they didn’t care, surely they did, or because they were too busy.

The real reason is they simply didn’t know what to do.

Their plan for their future together was that they had no plan.

Be aware that living together doesn't really prepare you for marriage. The failure rate of those who lived together before marrying is higher than for those who don’t!

Even if you have had pre-marriage counseling, it is unlikely you will be aware of the day-to-day strategies we share.

My husband and I wrote Mastering Marriage for every couple who wants to grow happier and more in love each year. It details every idea we have used for 25 years to have a marriage that exceeds our wildest expectations and our expectations were lofty!

Without Proper Preparation, Most Marriages Will Fail.
Most Marriages Fail.

There is no better time to read about and implement our suggestions than before your wedding. It is much easier to get off on the right foot than to make adjustments after some conflict arises or after you have broken a rule you didn’t even know existed!

A little effort now can avoid situations that develop into problems that diminish or destroy marriages. This is better than putting a lot of effort later into attempting to smooth over a dispute after one of you is “right” and the other “wrong”.

You can be one of the happy exceptions and enjoy a strong, fulfilling marriage instead of ending up in a blah, unsatisfying marriage or divorce.

I know you’re busy but with a minimum of effort today, your marriage will be everything you hope for. There are pitfalls you can avoid and things you can do before you marry that will virtually assure your success.

A sampling of secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering Marriage:

  • Step-by-step how to prepare your Emotional PrenuptialTM, the most important document next to your marriage license and the key to your future happiness.
  • The most effective communication technique ever and the key to making each other happy every day, in good times and bad.
  • What each of you are doing daily that can cause disappointment almost immediately after you marry and what you can do, starting today, to prevent it.
  • Strengthen your commitment to each other every day with three words more powerful than "I love you" and end any disagreement....almost before it begins.
  • Mom's "magic words" are still magic in marriage.
  • Your road to happiness will be smoother once you see through the “Mirage of Marriage” and avoid putting unrealistic demands on each other.
  • Bend the Golden Rule so your spouse will always be happy to be married to you.
  • The most important decisions you will make about sex and money, resolving two of the biggest areas of conflict in marriage.
  • Why you shouldn’t treat each other like Mr. Potato Head®.
  • Discover that the harder you work to be the perfect spouse the more you can irritate your partner. Ouch!
  • It's easy, fun and so wonderful to be one of the fabulous exceptions that grows more in love and happier to be married every year.

Share with each other the best wedding gift ever.
The secrets to to a GREAT marriage.

 

You will never get a second chance to
start your marriage off right.

Mike and I are ordinary people with an extraordinary gift to share with you: the clues to growing happier and more in love throughout your marriage.

Believe me, we didn’t start out as likely candidates to be writing a book on this topic. My dating history ran from comical to sad to pathetic. At my high school graduation dinner, my classmates named me “the person most likely to have her love life made into a soap opera.” And that was before things got bad!

Ultimately, I was angry, hurt and both hated men and needed their approval. I lacked positive role models and had no apparent relationship skills. I am bossy, demanding, strong willed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist. I also have many positive traits, I’m sure.

Mike went to an all boys’ high school and admits to being backwards and awkward with women. He has an explosive temper, is bossy, argumentative, strong willed, work obsessed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist. His need to excel at work caused him to put in long hours at the office and destroyed his first marriage even though he admits he had a good wife.

Back then, we were emotionally challenged. Mike’s divorce devastated him and I, though never married, had perfected the art of selecting unsuitable partners.

Because we lucky enough to listen to and implement advice given to us before we were married by a couple that had been happily married for 50 years at the time, we have been happier than we thought possible and, based on our personality traits, this is no small feat. They were a minor challenge, however, compared to the situations we have persevered through over the years.

A failed business, near bankruptcy, living out of our car for a year, a twelve year remodeling project, my eight year bout with clinical depression and giving my mother hospice care for the last six months of her life are the short list.

Despite facing these and other obstacles that could have destroyed a weaker marriage, we have never felt the slightest threat to our relationship.

We will help you make your marriage just as impervious to whatever life throws at you and you will enjoy doing it!

Everyone starts out expecting a wonderful marriage but few know exactly how to accomplish that elusive goal. I believe that if you want to know how be happily married listen to a couple that’s been happily married for many years which is what we did.

Based on statistics, most of you aren’t going to know many people that fit that description. Even if you do, how many do you feel comfortable asking details of how they handle sex, money and other issues in their relationship? What to do.

It’s Simple.
You want to be happily married.
We show couples how to be happily married.

Our suggestions will make your life together better; the more of them you incorporate into your daily life, the happier you will be. If you follow them all you will be happier than you can imagine.

Take heart, years ago we didn't have a clue how to prepare for marriage either.

We are committed to help others just as we were helped many years ago by sharing advice literally forced upon me by Mr. Ken Burley, a business consultant to my company. He told me he could tell that I had met the man I was going to marry and he wanted to give me some advice.

I barely knew him but I listened because I wanted to talk about my spouse after 50 years of marriage with the love in Ken's voice. We are forever in his debt. Based on all we’ve faced over the years, his simple suggestion is the cornerstone that has made all the difference between success and failure for us.

Once we understood you could take charge of your future, we built on that foundation and developed the other strategies we share in our book.

We have lived happier than we thought possible without resentments, disputes or even serious arguments. I say serious because, not wanting to burst any bubbles, we still have disagreements and occasionally “Mellow” Mike will lose his temper.

We have overcome numerous marriage threatening challenges together without any threat to our relationship. You can too by learning habits that will keep you happily married and sustain a lifelong love affair.

Begin building your future, today.

I hope I have convinced you that you can benefit from the experience of others just as we did many years ago, even if you don’t think you need it. Most people feel they will be the happy exceptions. Millions make that mistake every year. Whether it is our advice or that of someone else who has a great marriage, please don’t let your marriage just "evolve." The odds are heavily against success.

Even if you’re one of the fortunate few to be raised in a home where your parents openly loved each other and had a marriage to emulate, I'll bet that you have no idea how they accomplished it. You saw the façade not the foundation. Even if they are willing, they probably will not be able to tell you exactly how they have done it. More than likely they belong to that very small and very lucky group that somehow survives the “trial and error method of marriage.”
Not a good approach.

We have been happily married for 25 years. Mike did it wrong and now he’s done it right. Our success is not luck. It is the direct result of the strategies we learned, developed and implemented throughout our marriage and share in our book.

We offer the perspective of both wife and husband but we don’t have you create our idea of a great marriage. We help you realize the unique marriage dreams the two of you envision and give you strategies that will accomplish your goals not ours.

A few hours to learn simple techniques you can start applying before the wedding and in those first few months of marriage, will assure that you will thrive not just survive, that each of you will get what you hope for from your relationship, that you will be happily married and that your love and respect for each other will grow stronger no matter what life throws at you.

You have nothing to lose and a lifetime of happiness to gain.

Great Marriages Don’t Just Happen. Make Yours One Of Them.
 


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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

WHO CAN USE THIS BOOK?
"MASTERING MARRIAGE"
HAS GENERATED MUCH ATTENTION

PRICES AND PRODUCTS: SURPRISINGLY AFFORDABLE

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


"Are You Doing Everything You Can To
Make Your Love and Happiness Grow Stronger
No Matter What Life Throws At You?"

If you haven't yet, you soon will experience a situation where, much to your surprise, you and your spouse aren't on the same page and a "discussion" ensues. It happens to virtually everyone.

Welcome to "The Trial And Error Method Of Marriage" that leads 50% of couples to divorce and, just as sad, leaves 40% of the rest saying they're not happily married!

If you want to make each other happy, share with each other what will make you happy! Create your unique Marriage PactTM today.

That one simple step is the foundation for the success of your marriage.

From: Charlie Michaels, co-Author of “Mastering Marriage”

Dear Newlywed,

Mike and I are ordinary people with an extraordinary gift to share with you: the clues to growing happier and more in love throughout your marriage.

You and your spouse are happy and in love. Wouldn’t it be glorious to wake up every morning for the rest of your life and feel as lucky to be with your partner as you do right now?

Since this is what all couples dream of, why do so few achieve it?

Can you imagine the outcome of your wedding and reception if your big day had “evolved” without any preparation? Even if chaos had not prevailed, the likelihood that your wedding would have been remotely as you’d dreamed is nil.

You prepared for your wonderful day,
now prepare for your wonderful life!

Assuring success is easiest before unexpected issues and misunderstandings occur which happens to every married couple. Some small, some large. Some sooner, some later. Some silly, some serious.

You are probably experiencing that early “Adjustment Period” virtually every couple suffers through. Unfortunately, many don’t make it but you can minimize your discomfort by doing certain things as soon as possible.

Without Proper Preparation, Most Marriages Will Fail.
Most Marriages Fail.

The problem is people don’t even know you can lay an impenetrable foundation for a marriage, let alone how. When we ask if they prepared for marriage like they did for their wedding, most couples ask us “What do you mean?”

It is easy to understand why so many people are disillusioned soon after they marry and why most marriages don’t last or in time are not satisfying.

Most people believe their marriage will survive by addressing each problem and issue as it arises, that their love is strong enough to get them through anything. Big mistake.

All the couples who get divorced were happy and in love on their wedding day and felt they would be joyful exceptions to the statistics.

Just as sad those unhappy couples that remain married but share only an address not a life. An utterly disheartening state of affairs indeed. They too started out with this same mistaken belief.

Don’t think that if you lived together before you married you are immune. The failure rate of those who did is even higher than for those who didn’t.


The honeymoon doesn’t have to end....ever!

Most of the disappointments we suffer in our lives are not because the actual situation is so terrible but instead stem from the disillusionment that sets in when the reality differs from our expectations. This is true in marriage also.

Almost all of us had unrealistic impressions of marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on movies, TV, magazines and newspapers. In addition, most people haven’t given any real thought to what they personally expect and want from married life. They just get married.

We believe the major cause of the early differences that can grow into marriage-ending problems is that few people take the time to merge what they each wanted from marriage into a common goal and define how they would achieve it.

This isn’t because they didn’t care, because surely they did, or because they were so busy, which they probably were.

The truth is they simply didn’t know what to do.

Their plan for their future together was that they had no plan. Take heart, years ago we too had no clue how to plan for marriage.

Even if you had pre-marriage counseling by the clergy or a marriage professional, they will not have covered the day to day strategies we share.

My husband and I wrote Mastering Marriage for every couple who wants to grow happier and more in love each year. It details every idea we have used for 25 years to have a marriage that exceeds our wildest expectations and our expectations were lofty!

The sooner you read about and implement our suggestions the better. It’s much easier to avoid a disagreement than to make adjustments after some conflict arises or after you have somehow broken a rule you didn’t even know existed!

A little effort now can avoid situations that develop into problems that diminish or destroy marriages. This is better than putting a lot of effort later into attempting to smooth over a dispute after one of you is “right” and the other “wrong”.

The result is a marriage that gets better every year instead of a blah marriage or divorce.

In just a few hours you can assure the success of your marriage.

With a minimum of effort today, your marriage will be everything you hope for. There are pitfalls you can avoid and things you can do that will assure success.

A sampling of the secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering Marriage:

  • Strengthen your commitment to each other every day with three words more powerful than "I love you" and end any disagreement....almost before it begins.
  • Step-by-step how to prepare your Marriage Pact TM, the most important document next to your license and the foundation for your future happiness.
  • The most effective communication technique ever and the key to making each other happy every day, in good times and bad.

  • What each of you did when you dated that causes disappointment after you marry and what you can do to correct it.
  • Your life together will be smoother once you see through the “Mirage of Marriage” and don't put unrealistic demands on each other.

  • Mom's "magic words" are still magic in marriage.
  • Discover that the harder you work to be the perfect spouse the more you can irritate your partner. Ouch!
  • Why Not To Treat Each Other Like Mr. Potato Head®.

  • The most important decisions to make about sex and money, resolving two of the biggest areas of conflict in marriage.
  • Bend the Golden Rule and your spouse will always be happy to be married to you.
  • It's easy, fun and so wonderful to be one of the fabulous exceptions that grows more in love and happier to be married every year.

Give each other the gift of a GREAT marriage.

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Please don’t leave the success of the most
important relationship in your life to chance.

Our suggestions will make your life together better; the more you incorporate into your daily life, the happier you will be. If you follow them all, you will be happier than you can imagine.


Believe me, we didn’t start out as likely candidates to be writing a book on this topic. My dating history ran from comical to sad to really pathetic. At my high school graduation dinner, my classmates named me “the person most likely to have her love life made into a soap opera.” And that was before things got bad!

Ultimately, I was angry, hurt and both hated men and needed their approval. I lacked positive role models and had no apparent relationship skills. I am bossy, demanding, strong willed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist. I also have many positive traits, I’m sure.

Mike went to an all boys’ high school and admits to being backwards and awkward with women. He has an explosive temper, is bossy, argumentative, strong willed, work obsessed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist His need to excel at work caused him to put in long hours and destroyed his first marriage even though he admits he had a good wife.

Back then, we were “emotionally challenged”. Mike’s divorce devastated him and I, though never married, had perfected the art of selecting unsuitable partners.

Because we listened to and implemented advice given to us by a couple who had been happily married for 50 years at the time, we have been happier than we thought possible for 25 years and, based on our personality traits, this is no small feat. They were a minor challenge, however, compared to the situations we have persevered through together over the years.

A failed business, near bankruptcy, living out of our car for a year, a twelve year remodeling project, my eight year bout with clinical depression and giving my mother hospice care for the last six months of her life are the short list.

Despite facing these and other obstacles that could have destroyed a weaker marriage, we never felt the slightest threat to our relationship.

We will help you make your marriage just as impervious to whatever life throws at you and you will have fun doing it!

Everyone starts out expecting a wonderful marriage but few know exactly how to accomplish that elusive goal. I believe that if you want to know how be happily married, listen to a couple that’s been happily married for many years.

Based on statistics, most of you aren’t going to know many people that fit that description. Even if you do, how many do you feel comfortable asking details of how they handle sex, money and other issues in their relationship? What to do.

It’s Simple.
You want to remain happily married for life.
We help couples stay happily married for life.

We are committed to help others just as we were helped many years ago by Mr. Ken Burley, a business consultant to my company. He told me he could tell that I had met the man I was going to marry and he wanted to give me some advice.

I listened because I wanted to talk about my spouse other after 50 years of marriage with the love in Ken's voice. We’ve faced much over the years and his simple suggestion is the cornerstone that made the difference between success and failure for us. We are forever in his debt.

Once we understood that you could take charge of your future, we built on that foundation and developed the other strategies we share in our book.

We have lived happier than we thought possible without resentments, disputes or even serious arguments. I say serious because, not wanting to burst any bubbles, we still have disagreements and occasionally “Mellow” Mike will lose his temper.

We have overcome numerous challenges together without any threat to our relationship. You can too by learning habits that will keep you happily married and sustain a lifelong love affair.

Tomorrow’s success depends on what you do today.

I hope I have convinced you that you can benefit from the experience of others just as we did many years ago, even if you don’t think you need it. Whether it is our advice or that of someone else that has a great marriage, please don’t let your marriage “evolve” haphazardly. Millions try that and fail every year. The odds are heavily against success.

Even if you’re one of the fortunate few to be raised in a home where your parents openly loved each other and had a marriage to emulate, it is a safe bet that you have no idea how they accomplished it. You saw the façade not the foundation. In addition, odds are even they will not be able to tell you exactly how they have done it. More than likely they belong to that very small and very lucky group that somehow survives the “trial and error method of marriage.” Not a good approach.

We have been happily married for 25 years. Mike did it wrong and now he’s done it right. Our success is not luck. It is the direct result of the strategies we learned, developed and implemented throughout our marriage and share in our book.

We offer the perspective of both wife and husband but we don’t have you create our idea of a great marriage. We help you realize the unique marriage dreams you envision and give you strategies that will accomplish your goals not ours.

In a few hours you can learn simple techniques you can apply immediately and that will assure you will thrive not just survive, that each of you will get what you want from your relationship and, more importantly, that your love and respect for each other will grow stronger no matter what life throws at you.

You have nothing to lose and a lifetime of happiness to gain.

Great Marriages Don’t Just Happen.
It's Time To Move From "I Do" To "We Do"!
 


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Remember How Wonderful You
Dreamt Being Married Would Be?

"It Can Be Even Better!"

You no longer naively believe everything will just naturally be perfect. You're not always on the same page. "Miscommunications" have happened. Some pretty funny, others not quite so funny. It happens to virtually everyone.

Most couples simply follow this "Trial And Error Method Of Marriage" until they divorce or are unhappy in their marriage. How sad and totally unnecessary.

The first step towards living your dream marriage is to have a shared dream.

Even if your marriage isn't everything you hoped for, you can reignite your love affair and have it last for life by developing shared goals and giving each other the key to your happiness. Marriages don't remain static. Either they are growing stronger or they are fading a little each day. Make yours grow. Createng your own, unique Marriage PactTM!

From: Charlie Michaels, co-Author of “Mastering Marriage”

Dear Marriage Partner,

Mike and I are ordinary people with an extraordinary gift to share with you: the clues to growing happier and more in love throughout your marriage.

Think back to your wedding and how happy and in love you were. Wouldn’t it be glorious to wake up every morning for the rest of your life and feel as lucky to be with your partner as you did that day?

Since this is what all couples dream of, why do so few achieve it?

Most people spend a great deal of time preparing for their wedding and reception but simply allow their marriage to “evolve” haphazardly through time.

You prepared for your wonderful day,
now prepare for your wonderful life!

Imagine the outcome of your big day if it had “evolved” without any preparation. Even if chaos had not prevailed, it’s virtually impossible that it would have been remotely as you’d dreamed. It was true of the wedding and it is true of the marriage.

The problem is people don’t even know you can lay an impenetrable foundation for a marriage, let alone how. When we ask if they have planned for their marriage like they did for their wedding most couples ask us “What do you mean?”

It is easy to understand why so many people are disillusioned after they marry and why most marriages don’t last. In our minds, even worse than divorce are couples that merely exist together in a lifeless, blah marriage. A disheartening state of affairs indeed.

Without Proper Preparation, Most Marriages Will Fail.
Most Marriages Fail.

Most of the disappointments we suffer in our lives are not because the actual situation is so terrible but instead stem from the disillusionment that sets in when the reality differs from our expectations. This is true in marriage also.

Almost all of us had unrealistic impressions of marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on movies, TV, magazines and newspapers. In addition, most people hadn’t given any real thought as to what they personally expected and wanted from married life. They just got married.

One of the major causes of the differences that can grow into marriage-ending problems is that people did not take the time to merge what they each wanted from marriage into a common goal and define how they would achieve it. This isn’t because they didn’t care, surely they did, or because they were busy, which they probably were.

The truth is they simply didn’t know what to do.

Their plan for their future together was that they had no plan. Take heart, years ago we too had no clue how to plan for marriage.

My husband and I wrote Mastering Marriage for every couple who wants to grow happier and more in love each year. It details every idea we have used for 25 years to have a marriage that exceeds our wildest expectations and our expectations were lofty.

The sooner you read about and implement our suggestions the better. You’ve undoubtedly had disagreements already that occurred because you somehow broke a rule you didn’t even know existed!

We can’t change the past but we can dramatically improve the future of your relationship. A little effort today can avoid the situations that diminish marriages.

Create The Marriage You Want
Right In The Middle Of The Marriage You Have

With a minimum of effort today, your marriage will be everything you hope for. There are pitfalls you can avoid and things you can do that will assure success.

A sampling of secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering Marriage:

  • Your life together will run smoother after you see through the “Mirage of Marriage” and stop putting unrealistic demands on each other.
  • Step-by-step how to prepare your Marriage PactTM, the most important document next to your license and the key to your future happiness.
  • The most effective communication technique ever and the key to making each other happy every day, in good times and bad.
  • What each of you did way back when you dated that undoubtedly has caused disappointment and what to do to correct it.
  • Strengthen your commitment to each other every day with three words more powerful than "I love you" and end any disagreement....almost before it begins!
  • Mom's "magic words" are still magic in marriage.
  • Discover that the harder you work to be the perfect spouse the more you can irritate your partner. Ouch!
  • Why not to treat each other like Mr. Potato Head®.
  • The most important decisions to make about sex and money, resolving two of the biggest areas of conflict in marriage. It’s not too late!
  • Bend the Golden Rule and your spouse will be so happy to be married to you.
  • It's easy, fun and so wonderful to be one of the fabulous exceptions that grows more in love and happier to be married every year.

Great Marriages Don’t Just Happen
Take Charge Of Yours Today

Buy “Mastering Marriage” For $19.95.
Click Here To Order Our Beautiful Hardcover Version
OR
If You Are Impatient And Can't Wait To Get Started,
Click Here To Download and Print Your Copy Immediately
OR
View Our Companion Products And Special Package Deal

Buy With Confidence
All Products Sold On This Site Come With Our
“We Want You To Be Happy” Lifetime Guarantee

Believe me, we didn’t start out as likely candidates to be writing a book on this topic. My dating history ran from comical to sad to really pathetic. At my high school graduation dinner, my classmates named me “the person most likely to have her love life made into a soap opera.” And that was before things got bad!

Ultimately, I was angry, hurt and both hated men and needed their approval. I lacked positive role models and had no apparent relationship skills. I am bossy, demanding, strong willed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist. I also have many positive traits, I’m sure.

Mike went to an all boys’ high school and admits to being backwards and awkward with women. He has an explosive temper, is bossy, argumentative, strong willed, work obsessed, impatient, intolerant of nonsense and a perfectionist. His need to excel at work caused him to put in long hours and destroyed his first marriage even though he admits he had a good wife.

Back then, we were emotionally challenged. Mike’s divorce devastated him and I, though never married, had perfected the art of selecting unsuitable partners.

Because we were lucky enough to listen to and implement advice we were given by a couple who had been married 50 years at the time, we have been happier than we thought possible for 25 years and, based on our personality traits, this is no small feat. They were a minor challenge, however, compared to the situations we have persevered through together over the years.

A failed business, near bankruptcy, living out of our car for a year, a twelve year remodeling project, my eight year bout with clinical depression and giving my mother hospice care for the last six months of her life are the short list.

Despite facing these and other obstacles that could have destroyed a weaker marriage, we have never felt a threat to our relationship and we will help you make your marriage just as impervious to whatever life throws at you and you will enjoy doing it!

You have nothing to lose and a lifetime of happiness to gain.


We are committed to help others just as we were helped many years ago by sharing advice literally forced upon me by Mr. Ken Burley, a business consultant to my company. We listened because we wanted to talk about our spouse after 50 years of marriage with the love in his voice.

We are forever in his debt. We’ve faced much over the years and his simple suggestion is the cornerstone that has made the difference between success and failure for us.

Once we understood that you could take charge of your future, we built on that foundation and developed the other strategies we share in our book.

You want to be happily married for life.
We help couples be happily married for life.

We have lived happier than we thought possible without resentments, disputes or even serious arguments. I say serious because, not wanting to burst any bubbles, we still have disagreements and occasionally “Mellow” Mike will lose his temper.

Together, we have overcome numerous challenges without feeling any threat to our relationship. You can too by learning habits that will keep you happy and sustain a lifelong love affair.

Your marriage will become stronger as you incorporate them into your daily life. The more you implement, the happier you’ll be. Follow them all and have the marriage you want and be happier than you can imagine!

Don’t leave the most important
relationship in your life to chance

I hope I have convinced you that you can benefit from the experience of others just as we did many years ago. Please don’t let your marriage just “evolve”. Millions try that and fail every year.

Even if you actually know someone who has been happily married for a long time and you would feel comfortable asking about their relationship, chances are they will not be able to tell you exactly how they have done it. More than likely, they belong to that very small,and very lucky group that somehow survives the “trial and error method of marriage.” Not a good approach.

We have been happily married for 25 years. Mike did it wrong and now he’s done it right. Our success is not luck. It is the direct result of the strategies we learned, developed and implemented throughout our marriage and share in our book.

We offer the perspective of both wife and husband but we don’t have you create our idea of a great marriage. We help you realize the unique marriage dreams you envision and give you strategies that will accomplish your goals not ours.

In a few hours you can learn simple techniques you can apply immediately and that will assure you will thrive not just survive, that each of you will get what you want from your relationship and, more importantly, that your love and respect for each other will grow stronger no matter what life throws at you.

 

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"The Most Important Advantages
To Give Your Children If You Care
About Their Future Happiness!"

From: Mike Brown, co-Author of “Mastering Marriage”

Dear Parent,

Could you ever have believed anyone could capture your heart like your child has? No way! This love is so all encompassing that we can easily become focused on providing every "advantage."

We play classical music to them in the womb. We worry about what pre-school they will attend, what grade school. Will this high school get them into a good college? Do they have the right clothing to be popular at school? Are they excelling at this and that? Are they involved in every activity they need to be well rounded? The list goes on and on.

I'm not saying that none of these things are important but we need to keep in mind why we are doing all this. What is your objective? Is it not that you want your child to be happy?

Life’s Greatest Gift Can Be Marriage’s Greatest Challenge. When We Have A Child, It Is The First Time In our Life That We've Given Unconditional Love. This Can Be So Emotionally Overpowering That, With The Best Of Intentions, We Make Choices And Do Things That Put Our Child’s Happiness And Our Marriage At Risk.

The problem is that all of these things take time and money on the part of parents. More money means more effort at work which again takes more time. None of us got more hours in a day when we had children, so all of this time has to come out of the time we have for ourselves and, more importantly, out of the time we have for our spouse. Our lives become child centered.

We can become so distracted that we forget that the role of a "successful parent" is to raise our children to be self-sufficient adults. How do we do this?

Children learn most effectively by doing or by example.

By Doing:
To be self sufficient, children need to learn necessary life skills by performing them not being doted on and have everything done for them. This is a true disservice to them and puts a bigger burden on parents, usually mom.

In their early years, having them help with the laundry, cooking, cleaning and other household chores will take extra effort but the offset is that you are spending time with your kids, teaching them skills and getting your work done all at the same time! You don't have to rush to get "quality time" with them. This is quality time. Get your spouse involved and it is a true family activity.

Keep in mind, while these are chores to you, if you start them young enough, they are not to them. The younger you start, the less the battle because little kids always want to do things that make them look and feel older and just about all chores fit into that catagory when they are very young! Pay them for their efforts and they will also learn the correlation between work and money.

The real bonus comes later when their abilities develop and you turn chores over to them completely and have more time to be with alone with your spouse which brings me to the real purpose of this letter.

Don’t worry that your children never listen to you;
worry that they are always watching you.
Robert Fulghum, Author

By Example:
Happiness starts at home. Good or bad, your marriage is "marriage" to your children. On a daily basis, give them an example of a great marriage. The kind you want for them when they grow up.

In addition to enjoying a wonderful home life yourself, the icing on the cake comes years later when they mature into a loving spouse and “successful parent" which will make you prouder than you can imagine.

For this to happen, the two most important “advantages” you can give your child are a secure, two-parent home and an example of marriage where love and respect are the norm.

To do this, it is far better that you and your spouse make time for each other than allow your child to become the center of the universe. No one gets married to be number two or three or four in their spouse’s life. This is especially true for men who will rarely say anything until it is too late.

Neither of you can be a good example of a loving spouse if your child doesn’t see you being a loving spouse which means putting your spouse ahead of your children as often as necessary to keep the flame burning in your relationship.

This is far more important than the “advantages” many parents strive so hard to provide for their children that they have no time to devote to each other.

I love my kids more than I thought possible but I’m not going to win a “Father Of The Year” award. Like too many adults their age, my three wonderful, grown children had their world turned upside down by divorce when they were young.

Your Great Marriage Is The Best Gift You Can Give Your Child

I can tell you from personal experience that the hurt we inflict on our children when our marriage fails is devastating and does not end when they grow up.

A couple of years ago, my son was 33 and having serious medical problems. I called to express my concern and to try to coax him into taking better care of himself. Suddenly, he screamed over the phone that I had no right to tell him what to do; that I had given up that right years ago.

We had never discussed the pain the divorce caused him but it was obvious in his voice and heartbreaking to me. He was nine when I moved out yet his hurt was as intense as if it had been yesterday. I’m sure his sisters have similar grief.

This anguish could have been avoided if I had kept my priorities straight. His mother was a good wife that I neglected because of my focus on success in the workplace. How ironic, that I lost the very people for whom I was trying to provide a "better" life, a bigger house, nicer things…the “advantages.” How unimportant.

My second wife, Charlie and I are ordinary people with an extraordinary gift to share with you: how to create a marriage that is such a great example that your kids will want one just like it!

Create The Marriage You Want
Right In The Middle Of The Marriage You Have

With a minimum of effort, your marriage can be everything you hoped for. There are pitfalls you can avoid and things you can do to assure success.

Implement our ideas and hit the trifecta! Even if you've been married for years, if it is important to you and your spouse, you can rekindle the flame, bask in the warmth of a lifelong love affair and have kids that are happy now and in later life too!

A sampling of the secrets you’ll uncover in Mastering Marriage:

  • Your life will be easier when you will see through the “Mirage of Marriage” and stop putting unrealistic demands on each other.
  • How to prepare your Marriage PactTM, the most important document next to your license and the key to your future happiness.
  • The most effective communication technique ever and the key to making each other happy every day, in good times and bad.
  • What each of you did way back when you dated that has caused disappointment and what you can do to correct it.
  • Strengthen your commitment to each other every day with three words more powerful than "I love you" and end any disagreement....almost before it begins.
  • Mom's "magic words" are still magic in marriage.
  • Discover that the harder you work to be the perfect spouse the more you can irritate your partner. Ouch!
  • Why not to treat each other like Mr. Potato Head®.
  • The most important decisions to make about sex and money resolving two of the biggest areas of conflict in marriage. It’s not too late!

  • Bend the Golden Rule and your spouse will be so happy to be married to you.
  • It's easy, fun and so wonderful to be one of the fabulous exceptions that grows more in love and happier to be married every year.

Give your child a very special gift,
a daily example of a great marriage.

Buy “Mastering Marriage” For $19.95.
Click Here To Order Our Beautiful Hardcover Version
OR
If You Are Impatient And Can't Wait To Get Started,
Click Here To Download and Print Your Copy Immediately
OR
View Our Companion Products And Special Package Deal

Buy With Confidence
All Products Sold On This Site Come With Our
“We Want You To Be Happy” Lifetime Guarantee

You prepared for a wonderful day,
now prepare for a wonderful life!

Think back to your wedding day and how happy and in love you were. Wouldn’t it be glorious to wake up every morning for the rest of your life and feel as lucky to be with your partner as you did back then?

Since this is what all couples dream of, why do so few achieve it?

Most people spend a great deal of time planning their wedding and reception but simply allow their marriage to “evolve” haphazardly through time.

Imagine the outcome of your big day if it had just “evolved” without any planning. Even if chaos had not prevailed, it’s virtually impossible that it would have been remotely as you’d dreamed. It’s true of the wedding and it’s true of the marriage.

As you may be experiencing, the biggest challenge of all can be children. When they become the main focus, your marriage can be at risk. Your vitality and interest in each other can be drained by the sheer demands on your time.

Without The Proper Care, Most Marriages Will Fail.
Most Marriages Fail.

The problem is people don’t even know you can lay an impenetrable foundation for a marriage, let alone how. When we ask if they have planned for their marriage like they did for their wedding, most couples ask us “What do you mean?”

It is easy to see why so many people are disillusioned after they marry and why over 50% of marriages don’t last. Just as shocking is that of the couples that don’t divorce, sooner or later, 4 out of 10 are unhappily married!

In my mind, that is even worse than divorce for the children. Divorce causes a child pain and insecurity but a lifeless or combative example of marriage gives them daily reinforcement that this is what married life holds in store for them. How unfair when marriage can be so wonderful.

Why do so many marriages go from loving to leaving?

Most of the disappointments we suffer in our lives are not because the actual situation is so terrible but stem from the disillusionment that occurs when the reality differs from our expectations. This is true in marriage also.

Almost all of us had unrealistic impressions of marriage that developed over our lifetimes based on movies, TV, magazines and newspapers. In addition, most people hadn’t given any real thought as to what they personally expected and wanted from married life. They just got married.

One of the major causes of the differences that can grow into marriage-ending problems is that few people take the time to merge what they each expect from marriage into a common goal and define how they will achieve it. This isn’t because they didn’t care, surely th